Ep.070 Spiritual Meaning of Dreams. Become more spiritual by understanding feedback and guidance from your higher-self: Spirituality w Mark Zaretti

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[00:00:00] Hello, this is Mark from The Way Back, and this is episode 70 of the Discussing Spirituality live show. And this episode had a working title along the lines of “fine tuning your spirituality”. Because in it we look at a number of different facets concerning how you are guided by your higher self and how to get the most out of that guidance and relationship. And so we looked at things like feedback, guidance, the significance of dreams from a spiritual perspective. And we also, towards the end, looked at the topic of hope and answer the question, is there always hope?

[00:00:41] Now, we’re going to be really kind of going into a lot of things here, but in so doing, we’re going to reveal some pretty profound and powerful stuff that if you’re really spiritual, this will really help you.

[00:00:54] So I like to ask you a favor because the more people wake up, then the better the world will be. So if you’ve got friends or family who are spiritual, consider sharing this with them.

[00:01:06] Help them to help themselves and help others, and therefore where we can all support and help each other to become more spiritual, how we’re meant to be.

[00:01:16] So with that, I invite you to join me in enjoying episode 70, which was recorded on 31st July, 2025. God bless.

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[00:01:35] Good evening, everyone. This is Mark from the way back, and this is episode 70 of the discussing spirituality live show. And I think it’s going to be an interesting one. There’s people in the chat right now saying they’re looking forward to it, as am I.

[00:01:51] And so I’ll just quickly put the chat on the screen and welcome everyone who’s joining us, including you and me, on this live show. Now let us just dive straight in. So it is 31st July, 2025. Time really does fly.

[00:02:10] And the artwork will be shared on the podcast and everything. But what we’ve got here is a dial, and on the left we’ve got ego. On the right we’ve got God. And that gives us a clue about tonight’s episode, which is titled fine tuning your spirituality.

[00:02:29] So, yeah, going to be interesting and importantly, hopefully for all of us, it’s going to be useful, something that we can actually put into practice.

[00:02:39] So let’s see what we’ve got in store for us tonight. Well, coming up, first of all, I’ve got a bit of news to share with you then.

[00:02:47] Spiritual dreams, the important question, your higher self. And we’re looking at feedback and guidance, and I’m sure we’re going to be touching on other aspects and things as well. That’s the kind of the big Topics on to do with your higher self. And then is there always hope? Which is a slightly different question, but probably does overlap. I say probably because I’d like to just kind of, I guess remind us all that although I may have done a little bit of preparation work, this certainly isn’t scripted. And the whole point of doing a live show is to allow stuff to kind of come down, come through in real time and to, to have that freedom not to be scripted and just to talk from the heart and talk from the state and talk from experience.

[00:03:35] So I’ve got these big bullet points, but I don’t know where this is going any more than you do. And so this is a, a journey that we’re on together. So I think the best, the best way to start a journey is to take the first step on that journey. So let’s start with the news.

[00:03:54] So very quickly, kind of an update on the books. I have started writing a new book which I may have hinted at in one of the behind the scenes episodes and that’s based loosely around the Burden of Proof series of five live shows that I did. So if you found those five episodes interesting, then there is going to be a book coming that kind of follows on from that. And that’s, that’s something I’m actually quite passionate about and very much interested in.

[00:04:26] The Stonehenge into the Light book, second edition is now published and I’m just in the process of putting an online store to sell the books. Not just this one, but all of the books directly from the Wayback website, which is going to be awesome because it kind of cuts out Amazon and anything where you’re not supporting these big organizations that don’t have people’s best interests at heart, I think is a good thing. And it kind of gives us a little bit more control and means that you can potentially buy the books directly from within the website, which I think is really nice because everything under one place and the other bit of. Let me see if I can just bring this up. Got a very loud keyboard. I apologize. The other thing that I’m going to give you guys watching now, a sneak preview of is this is the artwork for the live show that I’m going to be starting hopefully on Sunday. I say hopefully because there’s a bit. Anything could change in the next 72 hours. But all things being well, I think I’m ready to start doing the live show where, which I’m going to call Time with Books. And there’s a. That’s a play on twb the way back.

[00:05:42] And that’s where I’m going to be doing that kind of. I’ve taken that segment that we used to do in this show where I read from one of the books and that is going to be a show dedicated to that. And the first episode is going to be coming up hopefully this Sunday, if not very soon. And if you can hear that noise in the background, don’t worry. That’s just Jesse the collie having a drink of water. And look, if you haven’t noticed, we are back in the motorhome. I actually really enjoy this space. It’s quite a creative space. I do a lot of my book writing here. Something about just being cocooned. And I’ve got my little table in front of me, my laptop and a few other bits and bobs. So I’ve thrown the camera that we can see. Hi there. And it just means that it’s kind of a nice place to focus. And I, I, I, I, I guess I just like doing the show from here. So for now, certainly for the near future, I’ll, I’ll be doing the show from here and also the Sunday show. It just has a really nice relaxed feel to it. It’s a bit, I don’t know if it’s the lighting, but it feels a bit 80s as well. It’s not a bad thing. Although we’re not going to be going into the whole 80s big here, so that’s kind of the news all caught up.

[00:06:53] So we are going to dive into spiritual dreams.

[00:06:58] And this really came about because I was doing some work, spiritual work, guiding someone. And it’s not the first time this kind of thing has come up. But they’d had quite a profound dream and we were making sense of it and trying to understand literally what is written on the screen. Does this, Was this some kind of guidance from our higher self? Now, there’s going to be a running theme throughout this episode and it’s about me being maybe it might come across as slightly pedantic, but certainly very specific about the choice of words used in, in a question. And this is really important and I, I’ll get to that part in a little bit. So stay with us as to why how you ask a question is important, especially because we are seekers of truth. So you and I are here because we, we’re spiritual. We’re interested in what’s unknown, what’s beyond our current awareness, perhaps what’s greater, hopefully, because that is what spirituality is all about. And ultimately that means to seek the truth, which in A non religious to seek God or seek the source, or seek that which is one thing everywhere.

[00:08:14] And so it does stand to reason that words matter. So I had this question, which is that does our higher self ever guide us in our dreams?

[00:08:24] And if you were to ask that question from a place of pure neutrality, then the answer would be no.

[00:08:33] And yet counterintuitively you think no, but surely it does.

[00:08:38] So I asked a slightly different question.

[00:08:41] Do we receive guidance in our dreams? Because it might not just be the higher self. And I’m not talking about other beings, I’m talking about the highest, which is God or Jesus. And so do we receive guidance in our dreams? Would be another way of putting it. And what I’ve done there, just to help us kind of tune into what I’m trying to encourage us to think about, is the first question is, does our higher self ever guide us in our dreams?

[00:09:08] That introduces a limit within the question because the limit would be it’s limited to our higher self. So by removing higher self we have, do we receive guidance in our dreams? And what I’m trying to encourage us to do here is to always strive to ask the simplest question. I’m sure there’s some thing about Occam’s razor, but basically the reason is that the simpler the question, the more likely you that who is asking the question would understand the answer. Because if you don’t understand your own question, then it devalues any answer that you get.

[00:09:44] So what we want is clarity of questions so that we have clarity of answer.

[00:09:49] So do we receive guidance in our dreams?

[00:09:53] The answer, spiritually speaking, is no. And that might surprise you.

[00:09:58] It surprised me.

[00:10:00] So that led me on to another question then. So if we do, you know, what is the.

[00:10:09] Well, let’s just ask that question. If I just do this. So do some dreams have spiritual significance? Because if we look at the second question I asked, where we’re saying, do we receive guidance in our dreams? The limit in this question is the word guidance. But there are other forms of kind of exchange of information and knowledge, not just guidance.

[00:10:31] So we don’t receive guidance in our dreams, but do some dreams have spiritual significance? The answer is yes. And that’s what I was finding and doing when I was helping this person who’s very spiritual decode the significance of their dreams. And it was spiritual significance.

[00:10:50] And I’d like to, at this point, let me just bring something up. So yeah, I’d like to kind of answer this question a bit more fully. So do some dreams have spiritual significance?

[00:11:04] The answer is yes, but it’s not as ubiquitous as you think. So let me talk about this with you because, because this is important.

[00:11:17] So some dreams do have spiritual significance. That’s the truth.

[00:11:25] And the spiritual significance in those dreams would not be guidance, because keeping things really simple, and we’ve gone over this many times before, but your spiritual journey is about choice. Making choices in real time, not anticipating them in the future or reflecting them on them in the past, but in the moment. When presented with a situation, an option, a choice, a path in life where there’s a fork in the road, you could act this or that, and believe me, this comes up many, many times a day. Sometimes it’s really small things, like how you respond to something or someone. Sometimes it’s big things, like a life changing decision. But the small stuff matters because whether it’s small or big, it’s a chance for you to demonstrate are you moving towards goodness or are you moving in the opposite direction? And so through your choices, you’re demonstrating constantly your desire for spirituality or your desire for the world around you.

[00:12:24] So normally the guidance is in those choice points, at those moments of time where there is a choice, your spirit is guiding you by telling you basically the right thing to do is this. Whether you’re receptive is another question, and we’re going to be talking about that more tonight.

[00:12:39] But in that instance, the guidance is real time guidance based on what you’re going through in that moment. Now, when you’re dreaming, you’re asleep. And we talked about the fact that when you’re asleep, unless you’re doing some kind of lucid dreaming, generally speaking, when you’re dreaming you’re not really exercising free will because you’re not in a fully awake state. And therefore you can’t really make choices. Dreams are normally something you just witness. And unless they’re particularly disturbing then, and in which case you’ll be woken, then it’s just something that you remember bits of afterwards. And again, unless lucid dreaming is something slightly different, that’s where you’re training yourself to become awake within the dream. And then that’s not really a dreaming state. And there is the possibility that you might be exercising free will and lucid dreaming by degrees.

[00:13:27] So just keeping things simple, when dreaming, you don’t really have free will. So that wouldn’t be a situation where you would be receiving guidance because guidance is giving you the right choice, inner choice, so that you can exercise your free will.

[00:13:42] So guidance, that’s why it doesn’t happen in dreams. Because you’re not really meant to be making choices based on free will in your dreams. So what do you get in dreams? What you get are spiritual warnings.

[00:13:56] And this is somewhere between.

[00:13:59] Think about it like this. You’re going in the wrong direction.

[00:14:02] And it’s important that you realize that. And so your higher self, well, that actually comes from higher. It comes ultimately from God. But let’s just say, because this. And I’ll get onto the conditions, but for those people where this will happen, God is compelling their higher self to give them a warning. So it’s a warning that fundamentally you’re going in the wrong direction in whatever it is that the dream is trying to relate to you. So the dream will use metaphor, symbology, and familiar objects and people to play out a scenario to show you the consequences, that if you keep going in this direction, then you are going to be cut off. And so you might find yourself in the dream in a building and all the phones don’t work and you can’t get hold of anyone, or you’re finding yourself trapped and everyone good is leaving the vehicle or leaving a building. You know, that kind of metaphor to say you’re being left behind or you’re being disconnected or you’re being cut off. And that by no means is exhaustive. I’m not saying that’s the only type of dream, But I’m just giving you a for example.

[00:15:10] So dreams can be used by your higher self to warn you that you’re going in the wrong direction and that.

[00:15:18] So I said that that’s for some people. So let. Let me explain a bit more, and I’ve made some notes. So because this is what I wanted to be specific with this information, you have to be very, very spiritual.

[00:15:31] In other words, what does that actually translate into in everyday life?

[00:15:37] Very spiritual means that you have already fostered, nurtured, and expressed a sincere and deep love and connection to God.

[00:15:49] So it’s not up here in the head. It’s very much from the heart. In other words, God knows you because you have reached out. You’ve already done the spiritual stuff. You already are connected. Now, it doesn’t mean that the spiritual journey is complete or that your growth is complete. In no way does it mean that. But it means you’ve done enough to become like a beacon of light that you’re on the radar, okay?

[00:16:13] And because therefore you are known, then if you start to slip, there will be investment in you to try and bring you back through your higher self.

[00:16:24] And so at this time, it would be about 6% of, you know, let’s just say good spiritual humans, okay, so people that aren’t spiritual aren’t included. But of those that are spiritual, about 6% are at that level where if they were going in, suddenly changing course and making mistakes, they would get that kind of dream based warning potentially, because there are other ways that your higher self can guide you and lead you and give you feedback. And that’s going to be a big part of what we’re going to discuss next.

[00:16:59] But dreams can have spiritual significance, but it’s not going to be kind of positive education and guidance. It’s going to be you are going in the wrong direction. And I, your higher self, I’m going to use this opportunity to literally tell you, show you through a dream you’re going in the wrong direction in the hope that the metaphor and the symbology and the maybe the poignancy of it wakes you up a bit.

[00:17:30] So ironically it happens when you’re asleep because you’re asleep spiritually, which is quite poetic if you think about it. So your higher self is going, well, you’re not even paying attention now. You’re going in the wrong direction. So you are, you have fallen asleep to me. So I’m now going to knock on your door while you’re asleep, I. E. I’m going to give you a dream. So just talking about it, actually it’s, it’s, it’s quite inspiring how life is a metaphor. You know, what happens when we’re asleep, what happens when we’re awake is literally also kind of a metaphor for our spiritual state. So if you’ve fallen asleep in life, your higher self, if you are very, very spiritual, will reach out to you in that sleep state because you’re asleep.

[00:18:16] There’s symmetry there, I’m sure. So there we go.

[00:18:22] That answers or that covers the stuff that I wanted to discuss at this stage about dreams and the spiritual significance of them. So there are, there are other dreams and quite a lot. Quite often it’s you processing information and on a lower level just trying to understand stuff. But if you are getting dreams that seem particularly spiritual, then it take it as a caution and I would take that as a sign to wake up and pay very close attention. And luckily what we’re going to discuss next would actually help in that scenario. But I say that’s it for dreams. As ever, if you are wanting me to go into anything else at the end, we’ll do a Q and A from the chat.

[00:19:04] So you can put question mark, question mark, question mark. In the chat and then I’ll pick up those questions at the end and just before we go on to the next thing, I’ll just share this from the chat. So Panther 9 has said that’s clever. TWB time with books and. Yeah, thank you. I actually had a list of different acronyms that I was trying out and I’ll share them with you because, you know, you might prefer some of the others and you can leave me feedback in the chat or afterwards. But I also thought about Truth Within Books, as that was an earlier version and that’s the one I can remember. I’ve actually got my list in front of me, but let me just see if I can find it quickly.

[00:19:48] Yeah, so we had Truth Within Books, time with books and Talk with books, because obviously the idea is it’s a live show and we’ll be talking, but I kind of settled on time with books. I thought that was the. The nicest option.

[00:20:03] So thanks for that comment and we will press on.

[00:20:09] So let’s just see where we’re at. Yeah.

[00:20:13] So if you could ask God one question.

[00:20:19] Now, I’ve already said questions are important because the better you understand your question, the more value the answer will have.

[00:20:29] And I posed that question to one of the online groups that I work with a few hours ago. So we haven’t had much time for people to answer. But I got my phone in front of me and I would like to just read out some of the answers that, that people gave to that because I thought they were quite well considered. And while I’m doing that, also, what came to. What came to you when you heard me say, if you could ask God one question, what would it be?

[00:20:57] So here’s.

[00:20:59] I’ll do them all as anonymous. Some of them want to be anonymous, some of them don’t, but I’ll just do them all as anonymous.

[00:21:04] So the first one we got back was, what are the simplest things for humanity to do to get closer to you, I. E. God?

[00:21:13] The next one, how can I serve you best, dear God?

[00:21:20] The next one, what does God want humanity to know?

[00:21:24] And then I put in brackets if God wanted anything?

[00:21:30] And then someone else reiterated that they would have gone with how can I serve you best? As their question.

[00:21:37] And then someone put.

[00:21:40] They would first ask, may I ask you a question?

[00:21:44] And then they would ask, how can I serve you? But if you could only ask one question, then your one question would have been, may I ask you a question? And the answer would have been yes or no.

[00:21:55] And that would have been it because you’ve already asked the question. And that’s why specificity kind of does matter. I know it’s a bit of a word game, but you’ll see some real questions coming up. And I’m going to break them down a bit in terms of understanding them, because I actually was talking with one of the people that sent me one of these questions earlier, and I read them back their question and explained what, how it was interpreted, and they could see that it wasn’t what they meant.

[00:22:29] And through discussing it with me, they actually came up with a simpler version of their question that actually was the question they wanted to ask.

[00:22:36] And so I think there is great value in this kind of exercise of learning to be a little bit more specific, because it matters. Because if you only had one question and God appeared or however and said, okay, ask me one question, what would be the one question?

[00:22:55] Okay, so here’s a question, and this was the one where they actually put effort into trying to articulate what they wanted and the reason. So we’ve got two questions in one here. So the original question is, as a person’s desire to be close to God grows, does their relationship with their higher self change? And I actually think that’s a really, really good question. There’s no such thing as a bad question, in fairness. But I thought that was a really good question.

[00:23:28] And in the same email, they then said, revise more specific question. And the reason being that they had actually asked me the first question in a group online meetup. And I said, that’s a great question. Do you want to put it towards the show?

[00:23:42] And so they then went back and revised their question.

[00:23:46] And the second version was, as a person’s desire to be more receptive to guidance from their higher self grows, does their higher self give more guidance because it knows they are receptive, or according to their desire to grow closer to God? At which point I was starting to get a bit confused about what exactly were they asking.

[00:24:10] And I’m going to break this down a bit.

[00:24:12] So if we take the second question, because that’s the one that they settled on, I’ve rewritten it here. So as a person’s desire to be more receptive to guidance from their higher self grows, does their higher self give more guidance because it knows they are receptive or according to their desire to grow closer to God? So there’s quite a. There’s quite a lot of confusion in that. And let me explain.

[00:24:37] As a person’s desire to be more receptive to guidance from their Higher self grows is only talking about their desire to be receptive. It doesn’t mean that they are more receptive. It’s not the same thing as asking. As a person becomes more receptive, which is what I think they actually meant.

[00:24:56] So they hadn’t realized that what they’d asked was if their desire to be receptive grows. That’s what they’ve actually asked here, and that’s not what they meant.

[00:25:08] And then secondly, they said, okay, so cause and effect. If their desire to be more receptive to guidance grows, does their higher self give more guidance?

[00:25:18] If you put a full stop there, that would be a well structured question, because you’re saying, if this happens, then does that result in this change?

[00:25:29] But then they put a condition on it because it knows they are receptive. So that assumes that there is a knowing and that receptive, I believe that should have been that they are more receptive.

[00:25:41] And that’s implying that they are more receptive because their desire to be receptive has grown. And so what that’s doing is it’s introducing kind of dependence like it’s assuming that a desire to be more receptive translates into being more receptive, which it may or may not. And that in itself is a question.

[00:25:59] Does having a desire to be more receptive translate into being more receptive?

[00:26:05] So you can see that there’s kind of. I know, I know this might be getting into the reeds a bit with the language, but what we’re saying is that there’s quite a kind of a dependent implication in this question.

[00:26:18] And the first part of this question isn’t what they meant in the first place.

[00:26:22] And so what I did is I took their question and I just simplified it.

[00:26:28] Is guidance from the higher self driven by A, a desire to be more receptive to the higher self, or B, desire to be closer to God.

[00:26:40] Okay, and I’ll read that again. Is guidance from the higher self driven by desire to be more receptive to the higher self or desire to be closer to God?

[00:26:51] And the truth is, and it makes sense, I think if we think about it, the truth is that guidance from your higher self is driven by your desire to be closer to God, not your desire to receive guidance.

[00:27:09] Because if you think about it, your desire sets the target.

[00:27:18] Your higher self wants you to attain that target.

[00:27:23] So the second option, which is the desire to be close to God, your desire is to be close to God. So the target is God. Now, that is totally aligned with your higher self, because your higher self is your fundamentally your spirit. And soul. And your spirit is the beacon of light and love and wisdom within you. That’s primary job is to tell you what you need to do to get closer to God.

[00:27:49] So if you make the target of your desire, God, then guess what, you’re aligned with your higher self and therefore you’ll get more guidance.

[00:27:59] But if you make the target or your desire and therefore the target to be more receptive to your higher self, then really what you’re saying is communication with my higher self is my ultimate goal.

[00:28:10] And your higher self goes, that’s not our ultimate goal.

[00:28:13] Our ultimate goal is to get you to God.

[00:28:18] And you’re not pointing at God. You’re pointing at the communication. You’re pointing at the relationship between higher self and lower self, which though must be respected and valued or should be or could be respected and valued isn’t the actual purpose of the higher self. The goal of the higher self is to get you and it to God. And it needs your help. So when you go, God is my goal, then your higher self goes, right, you’re on board. And we’re all facing in the right direction. We’re all, I mean, don’t forget we are one. So the higher self, the lower self is one. But what it means is the lower self is looking at God. The higher self is looking at God, metaphorically speaking, obviously.

[00:28:57] And therefore they’re both looking in the same direction. So now they can work to a common goal, which is spirituality, to bring you holistically higher and lower closer to God, which is wonderful. So that’s why the answer to the question is guidance from the higher self driven by is desire to be closer to God.

[00:29:18] But you can see how the original question was tripping up and not getting to that point.

[00:29:25] So that’s partly why I’m kind of highlighting shining a light on it today to say we need, well, we don’t need to do anything, but we have the opportunity to be a little bit more slow down when we’re asking questions and go, what? What do we actually want? What is the question we really want to want?

[00:29:46] And now I’m going to reflect on their original question because I think their original question was actually a stronger question.

[00:29:52] As a person’s desire to be closer to God grows, does their relationship with their higher self change? It’s a simpler question and therefore the answer has more value.

[00:30:03] And again, I’m just rephrasing it slightly.

[00:30:07] It’s the relationship between lower self and higher self proportional to the lower self’s desire to be closer to God. That’s the question.

[00:30:16] It’s the same question. But what I’ve done, first of all, I’ve introduced lower self to replace the word person.

[00:30:24] So as a lower self’s desire to be closer to God grows, does their relationship with their higher self change?

[00:30:34] And I’ve changed the word change to be more about the direction of change, which would.

[00:30:39] So is it proportional to the lower self’s desire to be closer to God?

[00:30:44] And so the question that I’ve got in red there, is the relationship between the lower self and the higher self proportional to the lower self’s desire to be closer to God?

[00:30:54] Means if the answer is yes, then the more the lower self wants to be closer to God, the stronger the relationship is between the lower self and the higher self. And that reiterates the answer that we got to the refactored question that they sent me. So both questions ultimately give us the same answer, which is, it is about your desire to be closer to God that strengthens your relationship with your higher self.

[00:31:20] So he got there. We got there, guys, in the end.

[00:31:24] But I wanted to break it down a bit and I did ask them for permission, and they agreed very kindly that I could use their question as a bit of an example to say we. We really have the opportunity when we’re having an inquiry into spiritual stuff, to stop and ask ourselves what do we really want to know and will it. And importantly, will it help us?

[00:31:50] So we gonna jump now to the next question. And it’s still about higher self. So I’ve kind of brought it into this show because it’s related. And this was a question I think Nick asked back in May.

[00:32:04] You have previously talked about receiving feedback from our higher self. Please can you confirm whether, if we aren’t receiving feedback, does that mean we are listening or that no feedback is incoming? Or perhaps a mixture of both and. Many thanks, Nick. And I say thank you, Nick, for the question, and it’s perfect for what we’re discussing tonight.

[00:32:28] This question kind of suffers from the same challenge that the previous question had.

[00:32:37] And again, I’m going to break it down a little bit.

[00:32:42] So the first sentence is just saying, look, we talked about feedback from higher self, but if you’re new to this, let me just bring us all up to speed on what feedback means.

[00:32:53] So feedback is, in fact. Where’s my little slide picture slide thingy?

[00:33:02] Interesting. I might have lost a slide.

[00:33:04] Let me see.

[00:33:07] Oh, no. Yeah. Okay, we’ve got a little slide that explains feedback in a bit. But what we’re going to Do.

[00:33:15] So you’re getting guidance all the time. As I said, every time there’s a decision to be made, your higher self is telling you what the right choice is. And you’ve got a choice. Do you listen to your higher self, which probably means you’re coming from the heart, or do you go with habits, ego, fear, or other drivers, which means you’re probably in your head, okay?

[00:33:35] And every time you make the right choice, the one that your spirit, your higher self presented to you, then you grow a little bit. You become a little bit more spiritual, you become a little bit more good.

[00:33:45] If you keep making the wrong choice in the same situation, then you start getting feedback. And feedback would be an injury, an illness, maybe something just like a headache or a toothache or an elbow, banging your elbow on the doorway, stubbing your toe, these kinds of things, or having an accident or something breaking. These are feedback mechanisms whereby your higher self is going, look, listen, buddy, I keep telling you what to do and you’re ignoring me.

[00:34:16] So since you’re not paying attention to what’s on the inside, I’m going to start knocking on what’s on the outside to get your attention. So literally, I’m going to use your physical body, which belongs to us, to get your attention, because you’re more interested in the physical world than you are in the spiritual world. So I need to get your attention back to the spiritual stuff. And so since you’re paying too much attention to the physical, that’s where you’re going to get the feedback. So feedback isn’t punishment.

[00:34:45] It’s simply an SOS from your higher self to say, look, I just made you bang your head in the cupboard door, or I just made you spill that over your computer to get your attention. And whatever it is that happened, the spilling of a drink or the bashing of the head or the stubbing of a toe or developing a disease or something, is always a direct metaphor for what it is. That’s the problem. Okay? So that’s what’s being referred to here by feedback.

[00:35:17] And for example, if the problem is you’re worried about how you’re going to support yourself in life financially, then you’ll have problems with your knees, because your knees are how you support yourself. If you’re thinking bad thoughts about yourself or others, bad thinking, then you’ll get a headache. It’s very literal.

[00:35:35] And there’s a wonderful book by, I believe, Louise Hay called you can heal your life, and that basically lists all the different ailments and injuries that people may Suffer and gives you an idea of, well, what’s the underlying thing that has driven your higher self to get that?

[00:35:58] Okay, so.

[00:36:00] And I’m just sorry for the pause. I just. Something just popped up in the chat. It’s relevant. So Rachel B. Jones is saying, I choked on water today. I know why and took a moment to realign. Okay, so that’s a good example of.

[00:36:15] And I’m not going to go into the why. That’s between Rachel and her higher self. But Rachel B. Jones says I choked on water and I know why. The knowing why.

[00:36:24] And this person is someone that I know has done a lot of spiritual work. They know that if something happens like that, the first thing to do is go, ah, this might be feedback. And to have a think about it, which is what we’re going to actually be sharing in this show. What we’re doing right now is looking at how we can think about it and understand it better.

[00:36:43] So that’s a good example.

[00:36:45] And so the rest of the question is, please, can you confirm whether if we aren’t receiving feedback, does that mean we are listening or that no feedback is incoming? Or perhaps a mixture of both? Okay, so what’s meant there is, are we listening to our higher self or that there is no feedback incoming?

[00:37:05] That second part, I would just put a line through it.

[00:37:09] When you look into the subtleties of it all, that’s not really needed to be asked because if no feedback is incoming, then there’s no feedback.

[00:37:18] Or perhaps a mixture of both. Many thanks, Nick. So what I’ve done here is applied the same process. And look, I’m not saying for one minute that I’m right, Nick’s wrong or anything like that. It’s simply that when people contact me private, one on one to do work, I have to translate stuff into meaningful spiritual questions. So I spend a lot of time doing this kind of stuff. And I’m not saying I’ve perfected it. I’ve got, or I’ve got all the answers or there’s my way and only my way. What I’m saying is from the experience I’ve had of taking things inside to have the inquiry, this is what I would do to streamline the question so that the answer has the most value. That’s what I’m saying and that’s what I’m sharing here.

[00:38:05] So I would break it down into four parts. So the first question is, I would do is are there times when we do not receive feedback? Because there’s a big assumption that there are. But I Would want to check, are there actually times when we do not receive feedback? Remember, we’re not talking about guidance. Guidance is happening all the time. Feedback is what we get when we’ve ignored guidance on a matter. Okay, so the first question is, are there times when we do not receive feedback?

[00:38:36] The next question I would then ask is, in such times, assuming the answer is yes, is it because we are listening? And I’ve crossed out listening and I’ve changed it for the word receptive, Is it because we are receptive to guidance, so no feedback is needed? Excuse me.

[00:38:57] So I’m missing Nick because he was here last week, so he did some of the talking and it wasn’t so much of a strain on the voice. So come back, Nick.

[00:39:08] But in such times, is it because we are receptive to guidance, so no feedback is needed?

[00:39:15] Then I would ask, or that no feedback is incoming, even though it should be. And that was what was implied in the question above, but wasn’t really stated. In other words, should we be receiving feedback, but for some reason it’s not coming through? Okay, and then could we be receiving feedback but failing to perceive it as feedback is the fourth part. So these are what this does is it breaks down the question, one big question into structure, structured questions where the answer to each one has value in its own right.

[00:39:50] So I, I did do a little bit of a deep dive into this, by the way. So are there times when we do not receive feedback? So let me just be clear. The we that we are referring to here is us, you and me, good spiritual human beings, okay? I’m not talking about people that are, that have made their life choices and they worship Satan or that they’ve done really horrendous things and they’ve fallen into darkness. I’m talking about good, good old human beings, spiritual people, okay? So that’s the we that is being referred to here. And when you look at the we, we, humanity, good, good, good, good people, right?

[00:40:33] Then 95% of the time, now that doesn’t mean 95 of the 24 hours in a day. What it means is during the time where you are subject, where you are capable of exercising your free will. So you’re not asleep, you’re not in a coma, you’re not under anesthetic, but you are awake, present and able to exercise your free will during those times, 95% of the time on average, we’re not receiving any feedback because we don’t need to, because we’re getting on with just being spiritual people, okay? And also we only get feedback when we’ve ignored the same guidance multiple times and it’s reached a certain criticality.

[00:41:14] So it’s not the first time you miss something. It’s a repetitive pattern that will engender feedback.

[00:41:22] So are there times when we do not receive feedback? Yes, 95% of the potential time that you could receive feedback, you’re not receiving giving feedback because you don’t need to.

[00:41:31] So in such a times where we’re, you know, is it because we’re receptive to guidance? And the reason why I got rid of the word listening is listening makes the.

[00:41:43] Sets up the expectation and has the assumption that it’s an auditory exchange. It’s not. You shouldn’t really be consciously receptive.

[00:41:53] It should be happening at almost like an unconscious level where you just make the right choice. There shouldn’t be a pause, conversation exchange. Pause, conversation exchange kind of cycle going on between you and your higher self. When you’re receptive, your higher self gives you guidance. You pick it up, you run with it without really realizing that that happened. It’s a natural flow that’s really important to understand, actually. And that’s why I took the word listening out and made it receptive.

[00:42:21] So in such times, is it because we are receptive to guidance, so no feedback is needed and the answer is simply yes. And that’s the thing. When you break it down into a structured question where there’s. It’s almost like atomic parts to the question, then you should be able to answer it with a yes or a no or a value, okay?

[00:42:38] Or that no feedback is incoming, even though it should be. And that’s a no.

[00:42:44] Because whenever feedback is intended by your higher self, you will receive it, okay? There’s no dodging that.

[00:42:51] So there’s nothing blocking feedback.

[00:42:54] If you’ve engendered the need for feedback, you will have the feedback, okay? It’s as simple as that. So 100% of the time that your higher self gives you feedback, you receive it. But here’s the important bit.

[00:43:06] Could we be receiving feedback but failing to perceive it as feedback?

[00:43:11] Now, this is something you have control over, okay? Because if you are receiving feedback, feedback, are you failing to just even notice these feedback. Because I know people that.

[00:43:22] And let’s just be clear. For example, if you take a headache or a migraine, it could be feedback or it could be interference. And we’ve talked about that in other episodes where, let’s just say beings and things are negative and dark don’t like good human beings. And so they may put bad energy into them or bad thoughts or other stuff to try and drop their vibration or. And one of the things that that can do is give you a headache. So if you’ve got a long term headache, it could be that you’ve been messed with and you need healing and clearing, or it could be that you’ve got feedback that you’re just not realizing is feedback and you’re accepting it as part of life and taking paracetamol or whatever, but you’re not actually dealing with the problem. Okay. Or dealing with the feedback. It’s not a problem. It’s an opportunity to grow. Okay?

[00:44:11] So the truth is that about 60% of the time good spiritual people are totally missing the fact that it’s feedback. And they’re just writing off as an accident, just not feeling well, an injury. They’re not making the connection that the reason why they just broke their toe or knocked their tooth out or bashed their head or caught a cold or have stomach cramps or running a temperature, whatever it is, is actually feedback based on something that’s under their control 60% of the time.

[00:44:47] Think about it.

[00:44:49] So more often than not, you miss the fact that you’ve been receiving feedback. So when you go right back to the original question, you know, if we aren’t receiving feedback, well, actually you probably are. And you’re not realizing it more than more than 50% of the time. Okay, it’s not exactly 60%. I think it was about 56.

[00:45:09] And that’s going to change as more people spiritually wake up. More people watch this show, then they understand and then they’ll go, oh, hang on a sec. Maybe I should consider that this might be feedback and then they’ll treat it as feedback and then they may actually learn, change, grow, and the feedback will disappear. And happy days, they can carry on with their life.

[00:45:30] So thank you for the question, Nick, and I hope you understand why I’ve broken it down and reworded it. And so now we know that there are times when we don’t receive feedback. It’s about 95% of the time. Because 95% of the time us good spiritual people are getting it more or less right. In such times.

[00:45:50] Is it because we’re receptive to guidance? Yeah.

[00:45:55] You know, is it that it’s not getting to us when it should? No, it always gets to us. And are we just failing to recognize feedback when we receive it? Yeah, 50, 60% of the time.

[00:46:05] It’s powerful stuff.

[00:46:07] You know, this, this is spiritual nuts and bolts here.

[00:46:11] So yeah, really worthwhile.

[00:46:15] And I simplified the question even further. So this is my take on it.

[00:46:20] This is how I would ask it. Do we only get feedback when it is needed and can we miss it? That’s really what’s being asked.

[00:46:28] So I’ve answered the question, but yeah, do we only get feedback when it’s needed? Yes. Can we miss it? Yes. There you go.

[00:46:35] That’s what we needed to know.

[00:46:38] So let me kind of explain a little bit more about what feedback is and. And then we’re going to get to the part that I think everyone’s. Hopefully that’s going to benefit the most of us even more, no matter where you are in your spiritual journey. So that man on the screen. And by the way, look, if you’re listening again on the podcast, I’ll put the artwork in the notes and you can just follow the link through to the page and you can see all the artwork. But we’ve got a simple drawing of a green man. Okay, that’s you.

[00:47:09] Okay.

[00:47:10] And there’s a question mark indicating that you are at a decision point.

[00:47:15] Something’s happened. Maybe someone said something or you. Something’s happened.

[00:47:20] Now it’s happening in real time. So though I’m talking about it and breaking it down, you’ve got to make a choice.

[00:47:25] Do you react? Do you stay neutral? Do you get angry? Do you shout? Do you say thank you? You know, you’ve got to make a choice about how you react to a situation. Let’s just keep it like that. Okay? So where’s your choice is going to come from? Well, one place it could come from is ego. And I’ve drawn this spiky shape in the person and called it ego. And the other place it could be is the higher self. And I’ve drawn a nice round sphere and labeled it HS higher self. Now, although I’ve drawn the higher self off to one side, it is actually predominantly in your heart. But let’s just. For the sake of this drawing, I’ve just put it off to one side because it’s.

[00:48:06] It is part of us, we are part of it. We’re not really separate things. But to understand the flow of knowledge and information and we can break things out a bit. So the higher self is there. Now you’ve got to make a choice. So your ego is going to play its tune and its tune is blah, blah me, blah blah, I blah blah self, that kind of thing.

[00:48:28] Now, it’s not always, look at me, look at how amazing I am.

[00:48:32] That’s not. That’s One facet of ego. But it could also be self pity.

[00:48:38] It could be, oh, I’m a victim.

[00:48:41] The old victim card, that’s ego. Could be fear. Oh, I’m scared.

[00:48:48] That’s ego. There’s lots of facets to ego. And I know I’m kind of trivializing it, but this is the problem with when people pamper to someone’s fear or someone’s, you know, the, the classic is they upset me because I didn’t like what they said. Well, that actually is coming from ego.

[00:49:11] That, that’s just. I don’t like being challenged. I don’t like ouchy words. That that’s a good modern example of someone being coming from their ego. I notice, blah, blah, I. In the, in the artwork. I don’t like how they made me feel.

[00:49:30] The truth is, guys, is how you feel is down to you, not the other person.

[00:49:38] If you sit in your ego, you will feel bad things. If you sit in your heart, you won’t feel bad things.

[00:49:44] So people that get upset by what other people say or think or do are actually in their ego, but they’re projecting and saying the other person’s the problem, the other person’s the bad person, and I’m the victim. So I did a whole episode where I talked about not falling on your sword and I listed a whole load of traits that are ego.

[00:50:05] So I’ll put a link to that episode. I think it’s episode 54 or 53 in the notes. But basically the ego will present one set of responses which are all centered around me, I, self, etc.

[00:50:19] Okay?

[00:50:20] The higher self will provide its guidance.

[00:50:26] And that is always fundamentally about God.

[00:50:29] And I don’t mean some guy with a trident sitting on a cloud or a beard. I mean that which is one thing everywhere, that which is the cause of all that is good, that which is the ultimate, beyond space, beyond time, beyond measure, the source.

[00:50:45] We’re talking spiritually here, guys, not religious, okay?

[00:50:48] So the higher self will say, it won’t just go God, but it will give you that. It will give you the reaction or the choice or the thought or the idea that if you follow it will bring you closer to God.

[00:51:05] Ego will take you away from God and more into self grandizement. Okay? So that’s the choice. So your job is to make that choice. And it all happens very quickly. Okay? We’re talking. This is literally proto thought before thought, pre thought, okay? You’ve got guidance from your higher self and you’ve got guidance from your ego. Now it is a Little bit more complicated because there’s also habit and there’s also kind of patterns and things like this, indoctrinated things that you’ve accepted.

[00:51:39] But fundamentally, it’s a choice between your higher self, particularly your spirit, and your ego. Okay?

[00:51:46] So you can go one or two ways and that’s it. There’s only two direct. Well, there’s only one direction more towards God or more away from God. Every single choice you make, every choice you make right now, as you’re watching this. Okay. Or listening to this right now, how you’re reacting to this information is actually a choice.

[00:52:09] What this is evoking in you and how you are reacting is your choice. Because the only thing. And really want to stress that the only thing that you are in control of ever is how you choose to respond to whatever it is, okay? It’s really, really, really powerful stuff.

[00:52:34] You’re not actually in control of pretty much anything else because everything else is a reaction to things that you’re not in control of.

[00:52:43] So the only thing you are in control of and the only thing you’re really making choices about is how you react.

[00:52:53] It’s as simple as that.

[00:52:55] And that’s why if someone’s in their ego, they will react with fear or anger or hatred or victim mentality or blame or judgment. Someone’s in their heart, they will act with compassion. Sorry, they will react with compassion, empathy, kindness, forgiveness, tolerance, neutrality. And that’s why spiritually, when we talk about the state of spirituality or the spiritual state, we are striving.

[00:53:25] There’s probably better words, but it will do. We are striving to maintain neutrality, which means that we don’t react other than from how is appropriate. Which dovetails into what would Jesus do? Or what would God do? And we talked about the qualities of God in another episode, so I’ll put a link to that as well.

[00:53:47] So slight tangent there, or not tangent, but just going into it a little bit more. So this is what’s going on now. Where does feedback fit into this?

[00:53:57] If the same stimulus keeps happening, like it might be the same person winding you up or challenging you or whatever it is. And maybe the right response is for you to set boundaries and say no. But you keep saying yes. You keep letting them disrespect you. Now, the right response is never one based on anger or aggression or anything like that. But it. But it might be based on, I don’t know, like I said, setting boundaries or something like that. But whatever it is, if you keep doing the wrong thing and in that case, it might be that you’re scared of standing up to them. And so you operate from fear, which means you’re operating from ego. So you keep choosing the wrong choice and you keep going through for the ego choice. Then your higher self will zap you, and I’ve got a lightning bolt hitting you coming from your higher self. And what that really means is that your higher self will arrange for an appropriate proportional event that should stop you in your tracks long enough to get you to wake up. So it might be that you stub your toe, bang your head, etc. Break a tooth on a tough cookie, I don’t know, whatever it is. But your higher self will arrange something that is significant in that which part of you got hurt or has the sudden disease or the illness is telling you something meaningful.

[00:55:19] Okay? And that’s feedback. So that picture sums up feedback quite nicely. Well, hopefully it does.

[00:55:26] And that, that’s just kind of the story of feedback.

[00:55:30] But when I do work with people and there’s no judgment or criticism because we’re all on this journey together, I’m having to figure this stuff out as well. And a lot of sometimes people are guided to ask me questions because it helps me go in and bring out information that would benefit other people and therefore I can share it with others. Sometimes it helps me as well.

[00:55:54] So we’re all on this journey together.

[00:55:57] And, you know, I’m never going to say I have all the answers. I’m just sharing what I know from the states that I have access to.

[00:56:05] But when we do work, say I was working with you and you said, oh, you know, I just, just stub my toe and I go, okay.

[00:56:16] People I work with closely, I ask them, have you done the work? And what that means is, have you been neutral enough and still enough and reflective enough to contemplate that you stubbing your toe was feedback?

[00:56:29] If it wasn’t feedback, then it could be like someone’s done some black magic or something to make you hurt yourself. Okay, May sound a bit out there, but these things happen.

[00:56:41] So the first question or the first inquiry should be, well, is it feedback?

[00:56:46] And then if it is, do you understand what the feedback means? And this is where people get stuck, okay? So let’s ignore that it might be interference.

[00:56:57] Do you understand what the feedback means?

[00:57:01] So again, these are the questions I would ask. So what is your higher self giving you feedback about? They say, well, I banged my head or banged my toe or I’ve got a headache. No, no, no, that’s the feedback.

[00:57:17] But what is the feedback about? What is. What is. What is your high self trying to draw your attention to?

[00:57:24] Because a lot of people actually approach it like, how do I get rid of this headache? How do I get rid of this upset tummy? What do I need to do or stop doing?

[00:57:35] It’s like, no, no, no, no. The headache or the upset tummy is feedback because you’ve already been making a mistake, and you need to understand what the mistake is, what the problem is, behavior is.

[00:57:49] And that’s what your high self is trying to get you to pay attention to. Not your toe, not your headache, not your tummy. That’s almost irrelevant, because when you figure out what the actual problem is, those symptoms will go away. And so the next question I would ask is, why did you listen to your ego?

[00:58:06] And it’s not incriminating.

[00:58:11] And obviously, if someone’s in ego state, I wouldn’t ask at that time, but I would say, like, relax, be calm.

[00:58:18] Take a moment to realign yourself and just ponder, why did you listen to your ego? Because that’s how you got into that mess, okay? Because you listened to your ego and you didn’t listen to your higher self. So if you understand at least why you’re going in that direction, or someone said something quite interesting.

[00:58:37] A historian was talking about World War I, and he was asked, why did World War I start?

[00:58:44] And he said, that’s not the right question, because the answer to why would be written by whoever you know, won the war and wrote the history books. And that’s going to be skewed and biased. A better question is, how did it start?

[00:58:59] Because that’s more fact rather than opinion. Okay?

[00:59:04] So you could even say, how did you listen to your ego? How did. How did it happen that you were listening to your ego? And similarly, I’ve put why did you ignore your higher self? And I’ve put in brackets and God. Because if you’re ignoring, ignoring your higher self, you are also ignoring God.

[00:59:21] But you could also say, how did you ignore your higher self and God? And that might reveal something to you. And it’s different for everyone. So I’m not going to preempt it. And I’m not going to suggest for one minute that just asking a question is going to give you clarity, but at least you’ll be looking in the right direction.

[00:59:37] So what do we need to better understand so that we can recognize feedback, use feedback, learn from it, and avoid it in the future.

[00:59:49] Okay, so I’ve got like a pyramid shape, a triangle there on the Right hand side of the screen.

[00:59:56] And this is where most people operate from when they’re looking at feedback.

[01:00:01] They look back and they say, what were the actions, the thoughts or the deeds that I was doing or not doing? Because it might be by omission, it might be that you could have done something good and you chose not to do it. And that is why you’ve got the feedback. But ultimately it’s going to be an action, a thought or a deed. So action, something you did. But remember, even actions are preceded by a thought, thoughts. So it might be something you’re saying to yourself or saying out loud, you know, and quite often that’s maybe self judgment, self criticism or criticizing others, that kind of thing. And deeds.

[01:00:40] And again, that kind of like an action really. But deeds is a bit broader. So it might just be the way you were in those situations. Okay, so most people when, when they’ve got feedback and they might message me and they go, I’ve, I’ve hurt my arm, Is it feedback? And I say, yeah, I look into it. Yep, it’s feedback.

[01:01:02] Okay. I don’t give them an answer as to what they’ve done or anything. I just say, yep, it’s feedback.

[01:01:08] Do you know? Do you understand why? And they might go, yeah, oh yeah, it was because I was doing this.

[01:01:13] Oh yeah, I was thinking this.

[01:01:15] So they’re at that level of actions, thoughts and deeds, which is great. Okay, that’s a good starting place. But what I’m trying to say is if you actually want to become a. Like a spiritual.

[01:01:27] I was going to say spiritual superstar, but let’s not engage any kind of ego. But if you want to become spiritually efficient with your time. That’s a nice way of putting it. If you want to become spiritually efficient with your time, which means more harmoniously aligned with your higher self, then instead of looking at the actions, thoughts and deeds that you were doing, look at your attitude.

[01:01:53] Ask yourself, what was my attitude?

[01:01:55] Like, what kind of attitude did I have? Was I angry?

[01:02:01] Was I selfish?

[01:02:04] Was I being overly open?

[01:02:08] More often than not, you’ll find that it’s a bad attitude that then led to the actions, thoughts and deeds.

[01:02:16] So attitude is one of those words that has subtle different meanings. And there’s an implied movement or direction in attitude, which is why it’s a subtler thing to look at. So what direction, or even better, from where were you coming when you tripped up and this feedback had to happen? So were you coming from your heart or were you coming from your head or you’re coming from fear. You know, what was your orientation? That’s another way of referring to attitude.

[01:02:48] So that’s a higher level way of looking at it. And that’s what I would like to encourage us to do, is to get over the actions, thoughts and deeds and start looking at, or as well as start looking at the attitude. What was the underlying attitude of this problem state?

[01:03:09] But this is where it gets really, really interesting.

[01:03:16] Above attitude are your beliefs.

[01:03:20] Now, those of you who’ve been watching the show for a long time will probably say, but Mark, you said spirituality isn’t about beliefs, it’s about experience.

[01:03:33] It’s about what you know from your own direct experience. And I say, yeah, absolutely. What do you know from your own direct experience? What do you really, really, irrefutably know?

[01:03:45] Most of what you operate from is belief. You believe the sun’s going to rise tomorrow. You believe that when you step on the floor it will support your weight. You believe that you will have a tomorrow.

[01:03:55] What do you know?

[01:03:57] I’ve done this exercise with people and we’ve looked at it from a spiritual point of view, and it’s like you start to come out with stuff that’s really profound if you’ve had the experiences, because it can’t be taken away. And that’s what truly is knowing or gnosis is from experience rather than from belief. And so, for example, I know that there is a great inner stillness.

[01:04:20] I know that there is some part of me that is nothing to do with time or this body or anything like that. I know absolutely that there is me beyond this coming death.

[01:04:34] I know all of these things from experience because of the states of awareness that I have access to that are beyond time and beyond death and things like this.

[01:04:43] I know that death is not the end, again from experience. And I’ve talked some of some of this in previous episodes. These are things I know now if you agree with me because you believe.

[01:04:56] Yeah, that sounds right. Yeah, that’s what I believe. That’s great. But I’m in this moment interested in what do you know?

[01:05:06] And it might be just one or two things that are irrefutable and can never be taken away from you. And there was a really nice episode. This is well before the live show. I did a podcast.

[01:05:17] I can’t remember the title of something like it’s not enough to know about God or something like that.

[01:05:24] And Nick actually, who was referenced earlier, was in that podcast and he shared an experience of like this real deep connection with God where he knew that God was there.

[01:05:38] Obviously there is no there because intangible beyond time and measure. But that God was real and that could never be taken away from him. It was like a permanent realization of state.

[01:05:47] That’s the kind of level of stuff we’re talking about here.

[01:05:50] So why am I therefore referencing beliefs at the top of this pyramid of pyramid of doom, this triangle of triage triage when we’re trying to get to the nuts and bolts of why we’ve slipped up?

[01:06:07] Because your beliefs do have value and if you believe something that’s fundamentally non spiritual about yourself or your world, then that belief will scupper your ship.

[01:06:23] So let me give you an example.

[01:06:25] If you believe some people may have had a rough health journey and though they know about healing and they have faith in God and stuff like this, they don’t really believe that they can be helped.

[01:06:38] And at some point their higher self will go. That belief is actually creating disharmony and illness in you. It’s becoming a self fulfilling prophecy. So you need to deal with it now.

[01:06:48] So the next time you express that belief in an attitude that results.

[01:06:54] Notice what I’m doing here. So next time you express that belief. So we’ve got belief at the top there, which becomes an attitude like, well, I’m just going to have poor health, that’s just who I am.

[01:07:07] That then becomes a thought like I can’t be helped.

[01:07:11] Then your higher self goes, right, we’ve had enough of this negative thoughts that you’re having, which comes from your attitude, which comes from your belief.

[01:07:21] And so therefore what the level most people get to is they challenge their thoughts, but they don’t really deal with the attitude and the thoughts will just come back. Okay, so now what I’m trying to do with breaking this down and dissecting it is show you that the opportunities there to go beyond your thoughts into your attitudes and beyond your attitudes into your beliefs. So if I was talking to you tomorrow and you said, oh, I think I’ve got some feedback, I’d say, wow, okay, what’s the belief that underpins it all?

[01:07:54] Yeah, this is exciting stuff, guys. Look, people aren’t talking about this stuff, okay? So we’ve got a better understanding now. So I, you know, I really truly hope that you don’t have feedback. And remember, in the nicest possible way, if you’ve got to the point where you’re having feedback, you’ve already failed.

[01:08:16] Now the spiritual kindnesses and the compassion and the absolute amazing unconditional love that Jesus and God have for us Means that that’s okay so long as we do something with that failure.

[01:08:27] We use it to pick ourselves up and move in the right direction, which is towards God. So if you’re having feedback, it’s not time for like high fives and celebrations. You’re having feedback because you’ve already repeatedly ignored the guidance that your higher self has been giving you.

[01:08:44] If you fail to even notice the feedback as feedback, then you’re just heaping more failure on top. But if you go, whoa, hang on a second, I recognize this as feedback number one.

[01:08:59] Thank you, higher self.

[01:09:01] Don’t be thinking you’re a victim. You did this to yourself. Okay, so there’s no point in going, oh, poor me, I’ve got feedback. No, I’m grateful.

[01:09:12] Genuinely, guys, when I have feedback, I’m grateful because my higher self and ultimately God love me enough and care about the trajectory of my spiritual journey enough that they will give me feedback as soon as possible if I’m going in the wrong direction on something so that I can put it right.

[01:09:31] So you’ve got feedback.

[01:09:33] Now we know that the opportunity is. Okay, great, all right, I will pay attention to the actions and what I was doing, the deeds and the thoughts and stuff, but that’s not enough.

[01:09:45] I’m gonna, I’m gonna look at the attitude that underlies it and then I’m gonna do a bit of soul searching, bit of introspection and honesty and go, what belief do I have that would lead to that attitude?

[01:10:00] You know? And look, guys, this may sound familiar, this is going to come back to the six virtues.

[01:10:08] There is a reason why so six virtues are these six qualities of character.

[01:10:14] Humility, gratitude, respect, non judgment, compassion, and unconditional love. Humility comes first. That you apply or have the opportunity to apply towards self, towards others, and ultimately towards God and Jesus. One and the same. Okay, so thinking about what I’ve just shown us, that beliefs on the pin are at the top of all problems.

[01:10:43] It will be negative beliefs, it won’t be beliefs in good stuff. And remember, spirituality means we replace ultimately those beliefs with experience.

[01:10:52] But it will be the negative beliefs like I’m not good enough, I’m not good enough yet.

[01:10:58] I’m not worthy of being healed.

[01:11:02] I’m a bad person, I’ll always get it wrong.

[01:11:06] It’s going to take forever, there’s not enough time. All of these beliefs, they are the reason why one of the virtues is non judgment of self.

[01:11:19] Think about it.

[01:11:22] And what did I demonstrate?

[01:11:24] When we get feedback, go to gratitude.

[01:11:28] Be humble, don’t go to ego, which is, oh, one more thing. Now I’ve got a headache.

[01:11:36] That’s victim mode. That’s ego.

[01:11:39] That’s not coming from the heart, that’s coming from the ego.

[01:11:42] So go to gratitude.

[01:11:46] Polarize yourself in. Okay, maybe I’ve been judgmental of self or others or God, because that’s a really big one. If someone is judgmental of God because one of the beliefs could be God, can’t help me, obviously, that’s ridiculous. But if someone believes it, because there’s no such thing as a ridiculous belief.

[01:12:07] There’s just. When I say it’s ridiculous, I mean it’s not the truth.

[01:12:11] But if they don’t know that. And by the way, look, no one is sat there with a list of their beliefs.

[01:12:19] These beliefs are things that they’ve inadvertently or unconsciously agreed to at some point in their journey through life where an idea or an experience has informed them of something and they haven’t challenged it, they’ve accepted it and they’ve made it their own and through repetition have reinforced it. But I can pretty much guarantee none of us are really aware of our beliefs. So literally, and I say this with no irony whatsoever, thank God that our higher selves bring them to our attention through the mechanism of feedback when we have expressed a negative belief too many times.

[01:13:02] What a wonderful mechanism. What a wonderful process for growth.

[01:13:06] So this is all win, win, win, really. Although it may seem like, oh no, doom and gloom, it’s not. This is amazing, amazing stuff.

[01:13:16] So there’s one last question. We’ve covered a lot, guys, but I’d like to just wrap up with this question and remember, if you’ve got any questions, also put them in the chat.

[01:13:27] I’ve colored this in to kind of draw our attention to things. So anon asks. And now that we’re all experts in picking apart questions and breaking them down, then feel free as I read this. Some people can make poor choices in life that move them into negativity and badness and away from goodness and God.

[01:13:48] It is possible for a very negative person to start to make good decisions when presented choices brackets to choose goodness that will bit by bit move them to goodness and God, or at least to a more neutral place.

[01:14:07] With this in mind, is it best to lead by example, accepting that the example may not make a difference, but there is always some hope. Thank you.

[01:14:19] Now, I put the it is possible statement in yellow because that is not a question.

[01:14:26] That is a statement that explains the beliefs that the person asking the question has about Spirituality, and I read it again very quickly. They believe that it is possible for a very negative person to start to make good decisions when presented choices that will, bit by bit, move them to goodness and God, or at least to be more neutral or to a more neutral place. That’s a belief that’s not phrased as a question and it’s inaccurate.

[01:14:57] The question is, is it best to lead by example, accepting that the example may not make a difference, but there is always some hope. Again, as far as questions go, it’s got three parts, lots of assumptions between them, and it’s not simplified to a point where you could just answer it yes or no. So we’re going to do a little bit of that.

[01:15:19] So anon asks. Some people can make poor choices in life that move them into negativity, badness, and away from God.

[01:15:28] That’s their opening statement. What I’ve done here is I’ve taken that bit where they made a long statement of fact and I’m now going to ask those questions.

[01:15:38] So is it possible for a very negative person to start to make good decisions?

[01:15:44] Depends on the level of negativity and the type of negativity. There are different kinds of depths of negativity. So you could talk in terms of badness, evil, darkness, negative, etc.

[01:15:58] At the shallower depths, where someone’s a bit negative, then it is possible for them to start to make good decisions. But once they have gone into darkness or evil, then their energy is shifted and it isn’t actually possible for them to start to make good decisions because there isn’t anything good presenting a good decision to them. They wouldn’t have engagement with any spiritual spirit or soul, higher self at that point. Because if they have gone into the dark energies and the evil energies or the satanic or demonic energies, then there is nothing guiding them that is good.

[01:16:34] So unless someone externally makes a suggestion to them in the moment when they’re actually at a decision point, there will only be bad guidance. There won’t be good guidance. So is it possible for a very negative person? Because the word very is there, I would say no. If it was for a negative person, I would say yes. And that gives you an idea of the kind of threshold of where things are at. So the next question, based on what they asserted as fact, the next question would be, if they do, as in make good decisions, will it move them to goodness and God, or at least to a more neutral, less negative place? So again, we’re assuming that they can make a good decision, so they’re not that negative, then it will not move them to goodness and God because they, to be that negative, have already turned their back on God.

[01:17:29] But it will make them less negative and therefore moving towards neutrality. So it would be an improvement.

[01:17:36] But goodness and God? Goodness comes from the spirit. Goodness comes from the human condition of alignment or desire or spirituality towards God. Even if it’s very nascent, very early in its development, someone that is has gone past the threshold of negativity into those badder energies and stuff would no longer have that kind of potential.

[01:18:03] Certainly at this stage. Okay, so it will move them to be more neutral and less bad, but it wouldn’t necessarily mean that they’re actually moving towards God. Okay, should we lead by example? So you see, what I’ve done is I’ve taken their questions, but I’m now breaking it down into atomic questions.

[01:18:23] You would probably, you probably expect me to say should we lead by example?

[01:18:29] And we come very close to saying yes.

[01:18:33] But if you are leading others by example, then you’re not truly living congruently with goodness.

[01:18:47] So what is the example you would want to demonstrate? You would want to demonstrate virtue and goodness because that is what it is to be a good spiritual human being.

[01:18:57] But if you are doing it to demonstrate to others, then it’s not sincere.

[01:19:04] So that’s why this is, this is a flawed question. Should we lead by example in an unconscious, natural way? Yes. But if you are doing it in the presence of someone who you think is negative or dark or something to show them how they should behave, then you’re putting on an act.

[01:19:23] It’s not congruent. And therefore the answer is no, you shouldn’t do that.

[01:19:28] Because the other thing that is subtle here is have you made a judgment about the person in front of you that you would then invoke leading by example? In which case are you being judgmental of others?

[01:19:40] And I’ve said in the past, I said we shouldn’t act towards others dependent on what we think is in their heart. We should act congruently with what is in our heart. So spiritual people, we should always be living the example. You know what? WWJD is a good way of orientating towards that, which is what would Jesus do? But the moment it becomes a conscious choice, then it becomes an actual. Even if it’s well intentioned.

[01:20:15] That’s actually quite a negative thing.

[01:20:17] So you should never go out of your way to lead by example.

[01:20:22] Jesus was busy being Jesus. He wasn’t saying to people, look at how virtuous I Am look at how good I am.

[01:20:31] He set the example of being spiritual by being spiritual, not by leading. I mean, this is where words fail. And I think you understand what I’m trying to say.

[01:20:44] Don’t be formulaic, because the moment you’re doing it kind of in a forced way, you’re not coming from a state, you’re actually coming ultimately going to slip into ego. That’s the truth of the matter. So should we lead by example in the context of this question where we are saying that someone has made poor choices and is negative?

[01:21:03] No. But what we should be doing anyway at all times, irrespective of whether that person is there or not, is being a good spiritual person. Therefore, if they happen to witness, might inspire them, which I think is what the question is alluding to. But certainly rubbing virtue and goodness in someone’s face by leading by example is not virtuous or good. Okay, so should we accept that our example may not make a difference?

[01:21:34] Yes. And this goes back to non judgment, and it goes back to one of the pillars of spirituality is neutrality.

[01:21:43] Because if you are looking to make a difference, it’s like you’ve got skin in the game.

[01:21:50] You’re invested, you have expectations.

[01:21:54] And if you have expectations, you have worldly desires. And if you have worldly desires, then you want something to work, you want something of someone else. Remember, that’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is what are you responsible for? What are you in control of, which is your reaction to things, Nothing else. You are not responsible for anyone else. If you are a mother and a father, well, you can’t be both. But if you are a mother or a father, you are to some extent responsible for your children. But really what that means is you are responsible for maintaining a high level of spiritual clarity and energy so that your children are bathed in your goodness until they can form their own solid identity. That’s actually your responsibility is ultimately still to yourself, in other words. But you have dependents who will be drawing on your energy and influenced by it and by your example. In other words, you will be to them what Jesus is to you, because they will look up to you, especially when they were young, and should they should have a certain reverence to you. Okay, we’re getting on a tangent here, but you get the idea. So basically, should we accept that our example may not make a difference if we’ve put ourselves in a place where we want it to make a difference? We are not standing firm in neutrality and acceptance.

[01:23:14] Therefore, if you’re having to ask that Question, then you’re showing that that where you are coming from is not. The most spiritual, spiritual person would, would basically always be neutral and not have an expectation.

[01:23:32] They would simply be demonstrating truth and goodness.

[01:23:36] And how others choose to react to that is entirely their choice. And good spiritual people respect free will. We’re not here to change others. We’re here on our journey. Others will change because of the light we allow to shine out.

[01:23:54] Allow is not really the right word. But the more we are aligned with love and God and our higher self, then the more light shines and that light can inspire others. But these questions, should we lead by example? I’m pointing at the question should we lead by example? Actually is like saying, should I try and let my light shine? No, you will dim your light by trying. Get out of the way, get out of your ego. Go back to being neutral.

[01:24:19] Should we accept that our example may not make a difference? If you can’t, you’re getting in the way of the light. Go back to being neutral. Can you see the pattern here? This is all based on expectations and desire.

[01:24:31] So is there always some hope?

[01:24:37] Sadly, the answer but no.

[01:24:41] Let me correct myself. I was going to say, sadly the answer is no.

[01:24:46] But there are no emotions in neutrality.

[01:24:51] The answer is no. There is not always hope.

[01:24:56] Remember, respect, Respect for self, respect for others, respect for God.

[01:25:01] If someone is beyond hope, that is between them and the Creator God.

[01:25:07] That is down to what have they done, what choices have they made that have placed themselves so far from God that there isn’t a way back?

[01:25:16] And that would be along the lines of the kind of thing where knowing, with a certain degree of knowing that God is real, that they have still chosen to consciously free will, reject God.

[01:25:34] If someone had spiritual potential and they rejected God knowingly, I don’t mean that they were born into an atheist family and they never had a chance. I mean that they’ve experienced, had a sense of the divine, maybe even received, you know, healing, that kind of thing that comes from God comes from Jesus. And, and having had all of that and known where it came from, if they then turn their back on God then, and fall into darkness, then. And this is, I cannot say this is always the case because it’s between them and God. But in those cases where God decides that they have cut themselves off from God and what they have done cannot allow them a second chance.

[01:26:23] So I think human idealism is, everything’s, you know, everything is flowers and butterflies and there’s always hope.

[01:26:34] There isn’t. And a good example of this, if you want to draw on a biblical example, is when, when God supposedly cast Lucifer down and then Jesus came and forgave all sins. He didn’t forgive Lucifer’s sins, he forgave. He forgave humans. He gave humans away to redemption.

[01:26:50] But the fallen angels will never, to quote the Bible, be allowed back into heaven. There is no hope for them because they knew that God was real. They turned their back on God and they acted against God, knowing the truth.

[01:27:08] And so one way of summarizing this is the higher you are in terms of your connection to God and your knowledge. And importantly, what’s the word I’m looking for?

[01:27:24] Let’s keep it really simple. The closer you have got to God, the further you fall.

[01:27:32] So someone that hasn’t really started that journey can’t really mess up enough that they would be beyond hope. But someone that has got very high and then turn around and dashed in the opposite direction has fallen very far. And when you fall that far, hope is withdrawn. And I want to draw your attention to something that might help explain that. So quite a while back, I think it was about when was it maybe February 2024, I did a video about understanding spiritual faith in God.

[01:28:09] Okay?

[01:28:11] And faith is based on trust, hope and acceptance.

[01:28:17] So if any one of those three are missing, then there is no faith.

[01:28:25] And so when someone has deliberately broken their relationship with God, perhaps not accepting things or rejecting things, which is kind of the same as not accepting them or refusing to trust, which is kind of like saying, well, I believe in God and I know God is one thing everywhere and all powerful, but I don’t trust that God can help me. Which goes back to, remember I said about beliefs that people have that might be very, very negative or dark, that they might not even realize they have. But if they can’t trust that God would help them or God could help them, then they don’t have faith. And if you don’t have faith, you can’t really appeal to God.

[01:29:05] So you need trust, hope and acceptance. And if hope has gone, there is no faith because it’s like a three legged stool. You take one leg away, the stool falls over.

[01:29:14] Now hope, this pit. What this picture explains a little bit more is hope can also be understood as positive desire.

[01:29:23] Now we’re not talking about desire for a girlfriend, desire for a boyfriend, desire for money, desire for a Ferrari, desire for a house, desire for good things for other people. No, positive desire means a desire for God. This goes right back to the very, very first few questions of what Is it that enriches or strengthens your relationship with your higher self?

[01:29:46] It is. How much do you desire God? So the highest degree of positive desire is a strong desire for God that gives you hope. So someone that has turned their back on, on God cannot have hope. And therefore there is no hope for them because they, you know, they have rejected God, therefore they have no faith. And hope is one of the parts of faith. So this again, this isn’t a judgment call. This isn’t. This is between God and them. And it’s to do with the ultimate respecting of their free will. And the greatest demonstration of free will. Well, free will is your ability to make mistakes. Okay.

[01:30:24] And so what would be the greatest mistake that you could make? The greatest mistake that you could make is to.

[01:30:31] Is as a spiritual person would be to kill yourself spiritually to destroy all hope of spiritual redemption.

[01:30:40] That would be taking your free will to its extreme. And if someone does that, God respects their free will. So there is not always hope. And the desire that there is always hope may be well placed.

[01:30:53] But if you dig down, remember that triangle of, you know, at the bottom is the thoughts you have and deeds and actions. And then you’ve got the attitude and then you’ve got the beliefs. So follow it. Where does the desire that there should always be hope for everyone come from? It’s idealism.

[01:31:13] Idealism is criticism.

[01:31:18] I know that that may sound harsh, but have a little, take a little while to let to kind of process. That it should be like this means I cannot accept it the way it is now.

[01:31:39] Ultimately only God knows the truth for each and every person. So you and I can’t say that person is beyond hope. That’s between them and God.

[01:31:50] And I suppose God could decide to give hope where there isn’t any.

[01:31:56] That’s the wonderful thing about God.

[01:32:00] So we are not here to judge on a microcosmic level, but when you ask the question is there a always hope? The answer is no. That’s the spiritual truth.

[01:32:11] So we have covered a lot guys, and let’s just go back. Yeah, I’ll just bring this up just to remind us. So any questions in the chat? But we have gone through the news to do the books and the show coming up on Monday. Oh, on Sunday. Oh, I did have a question for you and I know this is late in the show, but if you can just quickly in the chat or contact me afterwards asap.

[01:32:38] So I’m thinking of doing the Sunday show early on a Sunday morning, which would mean kind of like the kind of time before the kids are up, if you’re a parent, that time where you can maybe grab a hot drink, curl up, get your headphones on, you watch, listen to the show, enjoy, set yourself up nicely and spiritually for the day ahead of you. So I’m kind of. I’m toying with the idea of roundabout 7 o’, clock, give or take half an hour. So 6:30, 7, 7:30, get to about 8 o’ clock and people are getting up and the world’s becoming a busy place and I’ve got a dog to walk as well. So I’d like your thoughts on what kind of time Sunday morning would suit you. It’d probably be about an hour long show.

[01:33:26] But if I do it early and it’s too early for you, the good news is that it’s ready to watch again within about 20 minutes. Which means if I do it early on a Sunday, even if the best time for you is evening, the show will be waiting for you when you get to the evening. So even if you can’t make the live show by doing it first thing on a Sunday morning, it’s there for the whole while, it’s there forever. But. But it means at any time on a Sunday you could dip in and I’ll talk more about it when I start that live show. But I don’t like the name Sunday.

[01:34:00] It’s a reference to sun gods and that’s to do with Romans and Egyptians, you know, trying to take things away from the real God, you know, and mess things around a bit. So we might have to come up with another name for that day. But anyway, that day of the week is when I’m proposing doing the show because, you know, it’s supposed to be a spiritual day.

[01:34:21] So let’s start the day with a spiritual time with books.

[01:34:27] And on that note, I’ll give you 10 more seconds to see if any questions appear in the chat. I know there’s a little bit of a lag, but just to summarise what we’ve looked at today, we’ve looked at dreams. So dreams can be spiritual and if they are it, it will normally be a warning and it only happens in those people that are quite highly spiritual.

[01:34:48] It’s important how you ask the question and to take the time to really understand the question you’re asking.

[01:35:00] That’s some good stuff coming in the chat. I’ll jump to that in a minute.

[01:35:04] And then understanding a higher self, so feedback is when you’ve not been listening.

[01:35:08] And now we understand that we should really look right, right up the stack to get to the. What are the core beliefs behind this problem?

[01:35:17] Guidance is happening all the time and I touched on it, but I kind of really wanted to reiterate. It’s not supposed to be some kind of conversational thing where you, oh, I now have a choice. So let me take a moment to tune into my spirit and ask my spirit what I should know. That’s not what guidance is. Guidance is there ready for you the moment you need it. You just have to be coming from your heart and have a strong desire for God and you will pick up the right guidance. Okay, and then is it always hope? Short answer is in total neutrality. No.

[01:35:53] Some people have placed themselves through their own free will beyond hope and we have to respect that. Okay, so very quickly I’m going to jump to the chat and this no one’s mentioned any time but Rachel B. Jones has said the seventh day.

[01:36:12] Millie has said God Day.

[01:36:15] To me that’s kind of Australian. G’. Day.

[01:36:18] Marigold has said God’s day. Okay, that breaks it up a bit. And Panther 9 has said can it be called the Sabbath? Rather not use the kind of other languages, especially ones with kind of used for religion because it. We don’t want association with any particular partisan thing.

[01:36:43] Rachel b. Jones. My two are up at 6:30ish. So I’ll tune in later in the day. Thank you. Yeah, I can’t, I can’t do earlier than 6:30 because bearing in mind whatever I do I’ve probably got to do about an hour of prep and set up before I actually start going live.

[01:37:02] So that would mean you want it at 5:30. I’d have to be up at 4:30. So anyway, no, I was gonna, I was gonna be inappropriate and say could I suggest a third attempt for them? But if they’re up early, they’re up early and that’s fine.

[01:37:22] So yeah, I’m gonna see how I feel on Sunday. To be honest, my chocolate.

[01:37:32] Yeah, Scottish bird is saying I would like. Hello Scottish bird. I would like that day very much. Anytime. Yeah, Millie, God’s day. In the Bible, Sunday is dedicated to God. That’s kind of where I was going with it to be honest.

[01:37:48] And I’m going to kind of maybe just talk about this on the, on the Sunday. But it’s nice to have this discussion starting here and hopefully some of you will be able to make it.

[01:37:57] And I think it’ll be one of those things. Maybe the time moves around until we found the right time, but it’ll be in the morning anyway, on Sundays. But talking of time guys, and those, you know, you listening and watching, first of all, thank you for listening and thank you for watching. It’s been another long show, but I think really, really, really important stuff has been addressed. And look, I’m sure it can spark a load more questions and I welcome them.

[01:38:25] But for now, because of time, I will say firstly thank you to everyone that submitted their questions. Without you, there is no show.

[01:38:32] And thank you for joining me.

[01:38:37] We talked a little bit again today about free will and so so that there is always hope in your life.

[01:38:45] Make the right choices. Continue to make the right choices. God bless you and I will see you. Well, I will see you now maybe on Sunday, but I’ll definitely see you next week at the next episode, which is episode 71. But for now, thank you very much for joining me and God bless you.

[01:39:04] Thank you for being awesome and joining me for this episode. I’m truly grateful. As a spiritual person, I hope it’s inspiring to realize that you’re not alone and that more and more like minded people just like you are enjoying this live show. This means that you’re part of a growing and awakening community. And together we’re all finding the way back to God. Going deep, deeper than just ideas and beliefs to experience firsthand real spiritual awakening. This is a journey of the heart, not the head.

[01:39:39] So take this moment to just become a little bit stiller, more present, more neutral.

[01:39:48] Now notice what you notice when I ask you this question.

[01:39:55] What in this particular episode has been most useful?

[01:40:03] Now, who in your life at this particular time would benefit the most from knowing this too?

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[01:41:23] So God bless you. And remember, real change starts when we put into practice what we’re learning so that we go from thinking and doing to finally being.

[01:41:41] So take what you’ve learned today and keep on being the best version of you.

[01:41:47] God bless.