Ep.060 Swearing Never Hurt Anyone… WRONG! There’s a Reason Why Spiritual People Don’t Like to Swear. With Over Ten Minutes of Bonus Content: Spirituality w/ Mark Zaretti

Episode transcript:

[00:00:00] This is Mark, and thank you for joining me for this episode, which is episode 60 of the live show, which was recorded on 22 May, 2025. This episode is all about swearing from a spiritual perspective. And it’s something that, whether we like it or not, we encounter in everyday life and in media and television and even in the radio, certain songs, depending on what you like to listen to. And it’s certainly true to say that if you compare to perhaps 50, even 70 years ago, that swearing is certainly much more a part of life today than it was back in the day. And, you know, the journey here is to seek the highest truth. And as seekers of truth, we’re also trying to shed light on on things from a spiritual perspective. And I guess what we’re going to discover as we listen to this podcast could point to the fact that the increase in swearing in everyday life might not be the best of things and might even be a deliberate thing.

[00:01:16] But all will become clear or certainly we’ll have a better understanding after we’ve listened to this next episode. So I invite you to listen. And don’t worry, I’m not going to be swearing in this episode. It’s not something I like to do, but we will definitely be talking about the subject.

[00:01:35] So grab a hot drink if you can and join me for episode 60 of the live show.

[00:01:48] Foreign this is Mark from The Way Back, and this is episode 60 of Discussing Spirituality. And I’m so pleased that you can join me tonight. The topic for tonight is swearing, and if you didn’t recognize it, the picture on the artwork. In fact, let me show you right away. The artwork picture is Clark Gable from, I believe, Gone with the Wind. And he famously said that line when, frankly, my dear, I don’t give a. And we all, I think, know that line well, it’s kind of one of the iconic movie scenes from the 1930s.

[00:02:29] And this kind of is going to be an interesting topic. But before I dive in, we’ve got an announcement which I’m going to make at the end of the show. As ever, we’re going to do Q and A at the end of the show as well. So anything I say, if it evokes questions, just put question mark, question mark, question mark in the live chat. And at the end, if we got time, I’ll dive into live chat. And that’s Jesse just getting comfortable in my seat behind us there. And yeah, the main topic is going to be about swearing and profanity and these kinds of things. And as ever, I want us to remember that the purpose of this show, the reason why, hopefully you join me, is because we want to grow in our level of spirituality, and we want to make more sense of the world around us, the world that we live in, so that we can navigate the way as best we can.

[00:03:21] And swearing is a part of life.

[00:03:23] You know, I don’t. I. I’ll put my hand up and say it happens occasionally. I’m not proud of it, but it doesn’t happen as often as it used to. And I’ll talk about why.

[00:03:33] But it is something that we encounter on TV and movies, in pop culture, and in everyday life. And so let’s understand it. But even if you’re not particularly enthused about that particular topic, put on your spiritual hat and remember that no matter what we discuss in this live show, whether we’re, you know, last few weeks we’ve been talking about things like the Pope and how to be closer to God or other topics, this week, it’s going to be swearing. But the bigger picture is always about spirituality. And I’ve got a good idea about what we’re going to be covering. So no matter what we look at, there’s always an opportunity to grow and to learn through context, because every different topic will give us a different way of understanding the bigger picture. And the bigger picture is fundamentally from a spiritual point of view. How can we, you and I, get closer to the one, one thing everywhere? God, the source, that kind of thing?

[00:04:31] So if that sounds like a useful endeavor, then you’re in the right place. And one thing I promise you now is, as it has always been, my policy, that I do not swear in this live show. In fact, I don’t swear in any of my videos, and I’m going to uphold that in this video as well. So in case you’re wondering, there’s not going to be a tirade of profanity to prove a point or anything like that. We will keep it clean and we will press on. It looks like there’s a few of you in the chat, and it looks like most of you have managed to get on. All right. One person’s troubled signing in, but they’re in now, so it’s great to have you join us.

[00:05:07] So. So episode 60. Can you believe it? Here we go.

[00:05:12] This word, maledizione. I first encountered it reading a comic years ago when I was in Italy and I was reading comics because it’s a good way of. If you want to learn a language. Comics are quite a good way of learning because you see the picture, so it gives you context, but you still have the words. And so I was reading a comic strip called Dylan Dog, and probably not something I’d read these days. And the character in one of the speech bubbles said maledizione. And I was like, what does that mean?

[00:05:45] And so I asked a friend who was Italian, and they said, well, male or male means bad or badly, and dizzioni means diction. So bad diction, bad words.

[00:05:57] So that’s how in Italian we would say profanity or swearing. And I quite, quite like that word.

[00:06:06] So maledizione is the kind of title for today and what really we’re talking about. Well, I’m going to turn to the work of linguist Timothy J. And who’s a bit of an expert on the topic, and he said that swearing counts are about 0.5% of the average person’s vocabulary. Now, I dispute that.

[00:06:28] And when I looked into it, quote unquote, looked into it from a more spiritual perspective, then I found that the number was different, and I’ll go into that. But basically, on average, according to the sample of people that he studied, he said about 0.5% of the average person’s vocabulary is swearing. And since people speak between 6,000 and 16,000 words a day, then you know that that starts to mount up in terms of the number of times that they might swear.

[00:06:59] And so when people are in conversation or talking, they’re normally talking about 150 words per minute.

[00:07:08] I think I tend to speak a bit slower.

[00:07:10] And people feedback that when they listen to my podcast or watch this show back, they play it at one and a half speed, probably to. So maybe I speak at 100, well, words per minute, but that’s because I’m thinking and bringing down at the same time as doing this presentation. But the Average person is 150 words per minute when they’re just talking. Like if we were just having a coffee and we were just chatting away.

[00:07:35] So what’s the big problem?

[00:07:38] Well, if people swear 0.5% of their vocabulary on average, then that means that they’re swearing 30 to 80 times a day.

[00:07:48] Now, if there’s no problem with swearing, then there is no problem. But if there is a problem or there’s an impact on them for swearing, then 30 to 80 times a day, people are causing that problem for themselves. And that 30 to 80 is just a simple mass of taking 0.5% of 6,000 through to 0.5% of 16,000. When you work that out, if they’re doing 150 words, minute. Then it works out that every 80 seconds they’re swearing.

[00:08:18] Just think about that in the average conversation with two people. Then you can’t even make it two minutes without a swear word on average coming into conversation. And that’s for the average person. Now remember, what average means is at one end of the spectrum there’ll be people that hardly ever swear and at the other end of the spectrum there’ll be people that swear every other word. And so the average sits between those two extremes. And that’s what this is really quantifying. But what I found is it’s more like two and a half percent. So that’s five times as high.

[00:08:50] And that’s from going inside, going to kind of that, that greater state of stillness and asking a question of truth rather than, or from truth rather than maybe doing an analysis of a data set down here. And so if we took that figure of two and a half percent, that then that means that people swear about 150 to 400 times a day on average on the planet. And that would mean that they on average swear every 16 seconds of conversation.

[00:09:21] So if swearing is a problem, then that’s coming up a lot of the time when people are talking.

[00:09:31] So is swearing a problem, I guess is the next logical question.

[00:09:38] So Clark Gable to Vivien Leigh. This is, I think this film Gone with the Wind. I think it was something like 1936, but feel free to correct me in the, in the chat if you know better.

[00:09:48] And this is the end scene of the film. I haven’t seen a film, it’s based on a book. But my understanding is she’s basically saying she loves him, please don’t leave. And I think he’s had enough. And he’s walking out the door and she says, but what will I do? Where will I go if you leave? And he says the famous line, which I’m sure you all know, and I’ll do a little drum roll. He says the famous line, frankly my dear, I just don’t care.

[00:10:17] And you’re probably thinking, no, he didn’t. He said, frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn. Okay, that’s the famous line. And when he said it in cinemas around the world, when he said it, people were gasped in shock that he said that word.

[00:10:35] Now the reason why I’ve put here frankly my dear, I just don’t care is because the producers were so worried that if he said the word damn n that they would get censored and they wouldn’t be allowed to release that the film that they filmed, an alternative version, which was, frankly, my dear, I just don’t care.

[00:10:57] That’s how worried they were that they wouldn’t be allowed to say that word out loud. And yet by modern standards, that’s laughable, you know, that a film might not get broadcast because of that one word.

[00:11:13] And we’ll get more onto this. But that’s how, you know, historically, that’s how shocking someone saying a bad word on TV or on in a movie would have been. And, you know, Clark Gable, Vivian Lee were titans of their time, you know, and you’ve got to remember as well, there wasn’t many studios, there wasn’t, you know, hundreds of channels and streaming and stuff when. When films were made, it was a big deal. I mean, they did churn them out, but these big production films were big deals in their time and. And lots of people went to the cinema because there wasn’t, you know, didn’t just put on Netflix. You didn’t just, you know, didn’t even have blockbusters back then. And if you’re scratching your head about blockbusters and what you see, talking about, you’re probably quite young, but it was a cinema, maybe one or two channels, in fact, in the 1930s, I’m not even sure if many people had TVs in their homes. So this was big entertainment. This was a big deal. And it actually shook people that he said that word. And then, you know, in a vitriolic way, it became a phrase that many people used when they were walking out on someone or ending a relationship or, you know, metaphorically slamming the door on someone.

[00:12:34] And nowadays, you know, it’s probably not even that big a deal to say that, but at the time, this was quite profound. And so they actually filmed, as I said, an alternative ending just in case they couldn’t release the film.

[00:12:50] So what the F?

[00:12:53] A guy called Benjamin K. Bergen wrote a book in 19 or 2016 called what the F. What Swearing Reveals About Our Language, Our Brains and Ourselves.

[00:13:06] I’m just going to cherry pick a few key points and this is really just to set the stage. So we start with this discussion in the world that we know, and then I’ll take it into the realms of spirituality. So this guy and the previous person I quoted, they wouldn’t have had the insights into the spiritual side, but a good place to start is where they are and where kind of the mainstream understanding is.

[00:13:33] So what did he say?

[00:13:35] Well, simmering it down. He said that speech comes from two parts of the brain and the interesting thing is, if people suffered brain damage, now, it might be stroke or it might be head injury or degenerative diseases, then they would get this thing called aphasia, or dysphasia is another name for it. And aphasia is a difficulty in communicating, formulating words, making meaningful sentences, and also understanding. So it basically means that if they boom, bang to the head, then you’d lose the power to communicate and speak.

[00:14:11] That must be a tremendously horrible thing to not be able to understand what somebody’s saying to you. And also not being able to articulate. And there’s varying degrees.

[00:14:23] So you might still be able to talk, but it might be hard to form a sentence and you might repeat yourself, you know, that kind of thing.

[00:14:31] Or you might just get very easily confused and not being able to follow a thread.

[00:14:37] So with brain damage would cause aphasia. But what they noticed was that the person could often still swear. And there’s a very famous example that’s often cited of someone that I think they’d had brain damage and they lost the ability to communicate, except for they could say the F word. And if I f.

[00:15:01] The problem was they were a priest, they were a vicar, and so it was particularly embarrassing and damaging to their life, really.

[00:15:11] But that’s one of the often cited cases going back a while. But it just shows that you can. That where swearing comes from is not the same thing as articulated conversation. And years and years ago, when I was at school, I had a very dear friend.

[00:15:27] She was a year below me, and I used to spend lot of time hanging out with her and a group of friends. And her grandmother had a woolly hat on because her grandmother had had a brain operation and part of the skull had been removed. And so the head kind of had bad scarring. So she always had a woolly hat on. And when I first went around, my friend had to explain, look, she swears a lot, but don’t worry, it’s just because she’d had this brain operation. She’s, you know, had a bit of brain damage.

[00:15:55] And so every the way that this person could express themselves was just swearing like a sailor. Like a sailor. And it was quite something, this sweet old grandmother constantly swearing.

[00:16:08] And it was a bit like, there’s a name for it. Let me just see if I can remember the name.

[00:16:15] And it’s called coprolalia, I believe coprolalia, which is the outburst that you get with Tourette’s. And we’ll get on to that. But basically it was like that. So I’ve experienced this firsthand, not myself, but witnessed someone who’s had this and you can see they’re not in control. It’s almost like anything emotional triggers this outburst of swearing.

[00:16:39] And yeah, so with Tourette’s syndrome, which is what a lot of people would be familiar with when. When you think of outbursts of swearing, it’s actually only about 10% of people who have Tourette’s that actually have coprolalia.

[00:16:55] And by the way, coprolalia is a Greek word. Well, it’s a word of Greek origin. And copro literally means feces and laelia means words or speaking. So it’s a way of them saying that what’s coming out your mouth is disgusting.

[00:17:17] It’s not their fault, by the way, but this is a tick. And in about 10% of people with Tourette’s, then it expresses as this kind of swearing.

[00:17:28] Now, we’re going to look into a deeper kind of root cause of this later, but I’m also going to talk later when we’re getting into the more spiritual stuff about an encounter with someone who is developing a tic, which is. So tics can be verbal, but they can also be like head twitch or, you know, an involuntary movement normally triggered when this stress.

[00:17:53] But this is just setting the scene of what people understand. So it shows that a different part of the brain is responsible for swearing.

[00:18:02] And when we come on to swearing, there’s one thing to understand. The reason why I gave you the example of 1930s, you know, Clark Gable, was that what we consider bad now is different from what we considered bad then. So there is a cultural element to this and different cultures have different expressions. So, you know, when. When I was in Italy, there were some really bad swearing phrases that I’m not going to repeat, but they were referring to God. That wouldn’t translate into anything in English, really. And don’t have a paralogue in English.

[00:18:37] But that takes us on to the fact that there are mainly. You can group swearing into four different types. Okay? So the number one is religious swearing. So blasphemy, which I just hinted at. Number two would be sexually or sexual words. So words that are profanities around or discussing the actions of sex or sexual stuff in nature.

[00:19:05] The next one is general crudeness. And then the last one is cursing.

[00:19:10] And an example in Dutch, and I apologize if this is if there’s anyone Dutch listening, but I’m just giving it as an example would be Krieg der cancer. I don’t know if that’s pronounced right, but it basically Means I hope you get cancer, which is quite horrible.

[00:19:27] But that’s an example of the four different types of profanity.

[00:19:33] So where does swearing come from? We’re going to get through all the biology and stuff and then we’re going to get into the more esoteric spiritual stuff.

[00:19:44] In the previous slide the scientists said that there’s two main centers or two main places that language comes from in the brain and normal language will come from the left cerebral cortex. So if we think about your head, my head, the left hand side, the cerebral cortex is that bit on the outside that looks like lots of fingers, you know, in the picture you can kind of see these, I’ll just point it out with the arrows. You can see these grooves and ruts and ridges and stuff. That’s the outer cortex. So what it’s saying is that the speech comes from the left cerebral cortex, that outer bit on the left hand side and the swearing comes from the right hand side amygdala. And let me just highlight those so we can see what we’re talking about.

[00:20:38] So the normal language comes from the outside part of your brain and the swearing comes from deep inside your head in an, in a region that’s called the limbic system.

[00:20:55] So the amygdala is part of the limbic system and it’s quite a weird looking structure. So it’s, you can kind of see it here, you’ve got this bulbous bit and then you’ve got these arms that come round and a little stalk.

[00:21:11] It looks quite bizarre. If you want to google the limbic system and kind of visualize it on its own when, when you take the cortex off it’s like taking two halves of an apple apart. And then the bit that’s in the middle, which would be like more like the core is this limbic system. And, and if you think about, you want to limber up. So the limbic system is about arousal and action and it’s much more what traditionally there was a three brain model, so the triune brain model back in the day and that’s where the idea of a reptile brain came from. And what they said is you had the very base of the spine which was like the reptilian part down here.

[00:21:52] And then they said you have the pre mammalian part which is kind of this inner bit here and then you have the, the neo mammalian part which is this cortex on the outside. And basically they argued that there’s three different brains that they’ve evolved one, then the next and the next. And they’re Almost competing for who’s in control.

[00:22:11] And you know, certain the, the theory is kind of being blown out the water a bit.

[00:22:16] But in the 70s it was a very big theory.

[00:22:20] But some people still reference towards it and say that, look, if you’re lower brain, which is more kind of like the instinctual side is in full control, then you’re not really engaging your more human elements and you’re more like an animal in your behavior and stuff. But what it says, what this means is that basically swearing comes from a very specific part of the brain which isn’t where you form speech.

[00:22:45] Interesting.

[00:22:47] So what does the amygdala or the amygdala actually do?

[00:22:53] So it’s this classically known as the center of fear.

[00:22:58] It’s also where aggression comes from.

[00:23:02] Anxiety and threat analysis. So if you feel under threat, your amygdala releases hormones.

[00:23:10] You know, if you, if you’re running on your nervous system in a state of anxiety, then you’re coming from your amygdala or your, certainly your limbic system. You, if you’re prone to aggression and can’t control your temper, then again it’s very much a function of the limbic system.

[00:23:29] And fundamentally being in a state of fear is again of this part of the brain. So interesting that swearing comes from fear. The same place where fear, aggression, anxiety and threat.

[00:23:45] Now this is, let’s start getting into the spiritual stuff.

[00:23:49] When you think about fear, aggression, which is violence to others, anxiety, which is like fear, it’s worrying. And therefore if you were taking a more spiritual perspective, if you’re worried, it means you’re not trusting in God, the Creator, the source. You’re worried that you know you won’t be taken care of or threat. Again, a threat normally means to lower self. And therefore it’s this idea that you’re more that you’re very concerned about the physical body and therefore you, you’re not awake to the fact that this is just one of many bodies and that who you really are transcends this physical body. And there’s nothing really to be, you know, to feel threatened about.

[00:24:36] Obviously don’t put yourself in harm’s way, but having that confidence that you are a spiritual energy being that transcends just this one physical life to have many lives through which you learn and evolve. So when you look at that list of fear, aggression, anxiety and threat, the thing that it really kind of says to me, these are all markers for coming from ego. And what do I mean by coming from ego? Well, it’s fundamentally coming from Ego, from a spiritual point of view is the opposite of spirituality. It means that you’re sitting in lower self, and that’s why you’re putting lower self first, not. Not your soul, not your spirit, but very much your physical body.

[00:25:18] And therefore you’re prone to fear, you’re prone to worry. Because when we identify with limits, everything is a challenge towards us.

[00:25:27] And so without it being critical, the limbic system and the amygdala are, you could say, is also this a location where we come from ego?

[00:25:40] Interesting, because now we’re starting to look at things, how the physical and the brain interact with the more spiritual aspects of ourselves.

[00:25:50] So that makes me wonder, and these are the kind of questions that I’ve got. And as I said, if you’ve got your own questions, put them in the chat.

[00:26:01] But thinking about swearing and the limbic system and the amygdala and the fact that that’s the seat of fear and therefore ego, then is there a correlation between swearing and the level of spirituality in a person?

[00:26:15] Since being an ego is kind of the antithesis of being spiritual?

[00:26:22] In which case, does swearing lower your vibration?

[00:26:28] If you swear in your head? Because this is just where my thinking went. Okay, so if you swear in your head rather than out loud, does it have the same effect? Assuming that there is an effect, could be worse, could be better.

[00:26:42] Does a specific swear word make a difference? So the example I gave you of Clark Gable, by modern standards, you say, well, it’s not that bad.

[00:26:52] Okay, so is it that bad? Is it weaker? Is it stronger in its effect?

[00:26:57] What. What does the specific swear word lean? You know what. What effect does it have? Or is it agnostic of the words? Is it just the fact that we swear and then taking things to a more spiritual point, in other words, beyond just this physical body, then is there a higher part of us, and we might talk about soul and spirit and things like that that’s involved in swearing, either suppressing it or promoting it.

[00:27:26] And if so, then what can we learn?

[00:27:29] What does it mean then? If we are. If we find ourselves swearing, is it telling us where we are coming from? So these are the things that I invite you to join me as we look into these various things.

[00:27:42] So the first one that I wanted to cover with us, is there a correlation between swearing and level of spirituality? And on the screen I’ve got a simple graph.

[00:27:52] So along the Y axis going up the side here, we’ve got level of swearing. So it starts at zero, and we’ve got half a percent, which is where the average for people is supposedly and then going up to about 8%. Because I found that looking into it spiritually, 8%, in other words, 8% of what comes out of a person’s mouth is swearing seems to be about the highest threshold for people who. Well, for some people.

[00:28:23] And then along the X axis we’ve got, if I draw your attention to halfway along, we’ve got this red line along the X axis and that represents the point of neutrality. So at that point, a person is neither good nor bad, they’re just simply neutral.

[00:28:38] If they go to the right of that point, as you can see, the arrow points ultimately towards Jesus as an example. They go to the right of that point, then what that’s saying is they’re increasing in spirituality. And if they go to the left of that point, then they’re moving towards badness. And then if they keep going more towards the left, then we’re talking about people that become very satanic or evil.

[00:29:02] And as I’ve explained in the past, most people, the large bulk of people are slightly to the right of neutral. And others generally you could say good, not particularly spiritual, but just not, not bad, above neutral to good. Okay. And so this bell shaped curve that’s skewed slightly to the right shows you the distribution of people on the planet. And that if you’re looking at this graph, and don’t worry if you’re listening again, I’ll always put the artwork in the podcast write up. But you can see these chevrons. So that chevron theory is the kind of average person, and that’s where the peak is.

[00:29:40] So to the right of that it drops down and that’s people that are truly spirit. So there’s not many of them. And it goes almost to zero as you get towards the level that Jesus was, because Jesus was a bit different from us, a bit more special.

[00:29:54] And then as we go to the left of neutral, we start to see that there’s still quite a high proportion of people who are bad. And then it goes down towards satanic and evil. So not so many, but there’s still some that are satanic and evil.

[00:30:11] So obviously what the question necessitates is a line on this graph to show us if there is a correlation between swearing and the level of spirituality.

[00:30:22] So allow me to show you. This is what I got and I, I’ll explain when I, what I mean by what I got.

[00:30:29] Okay, so it’s almost a straight line.

[00:30:35] In other words, a direct correlation between the amount of swearing or the propensity for swearing versus spirituality.

[00:30:48] And let me just explain this. So someone that is extremely satanic or evil will have no problems with swearing. It doesn’t mean they have to swear, by the way, but it means that they will be quite happy to swear.

[00:31:02] And this wearing could peak at about 8% then as you come down to this average person zone. So let me just grab the arrow and show you. So around here it’s about 2 and a half percent, which tallies more with what I originally got for the average amount of swearing of an individual, an average person.

[00:31:25] And then as it carries on into more spiritual realms, it peters down to almost zero.

[00:31:33] Now we, you know, as the saying goes, let. How’s it go? Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.

[00:31:40] So I want you to reflect, right? Write in the chat, if you’re, if you’re able, reflect honestly on how many times you’ve sworn today. Even if it was a minor swear word, even if no one witnessed it, how many times have you sworn today?

[00:31:58] And, and if you want, you don’t have to write it in the chat, but if you want to, just write it in the chat and then in brackets, put how many times you sworn in your head.

[00:32:08] So I haven’t sworn out loud today, but I know that once or twice I caught myself on the inside swearing. And I’ll talk about what happened when I noticed that, because this is really important to know. What can we do with this information?

[00:32:28] But that’s me being honest today.

[00:32:30] You know, one or two words. I caught myself on the inside, but I never swore on the outside.

[00:32:36] So going back to that graph, the more spiritual you are, the less likely you are to be swearing.

[00:32:44] And let’s say that this line actually shows swearing on the outside, not necessarily swearing on the inside, because I think for every swear word that escapes our lips, there’s probably more that got stopped at the gate, if you know what I’m saying.

[00:32:57] But the key answer to the question is that as you become more spiritual, there is a correlation where it’s inversely proportional. The more spiritual you are, the less you swear, or the more you swear, the less spiritual you are. Generally speaking. Now, there are going to be exceptions. So for example, you could imagine someone that is particularly bad or evil, but they’ve learned not to swear because they hold a position of power or public house or, you know, they’re in the public and they know that it would come across the optics would be bad if they were caught swearing. So they’ve learned not to swear, to talk charming to talk with grace. But. But it’s an act. They’re actors in on the world stage and they understand the role that they must play to carry on deceiving and beguiling people.

[00:33:47] So it’s not a given that someone that is satanic and evil is forced to swear.

[00:33:54] But let’s just say behind closed doors, they would have no problem with swearing. It would come naturally to them.

[00:34:00] Or someone that is extremely spiritual would not have the propensity towards swearing. That’s what this is saying.

[00:34:09] So the next question that we asked was, does swearing lower your vibration? Now, this is where it gets quite interesting.

[00:34:16] There’s. We could choose different points along this. So you know, what happens if someone who is satanic swears? Does it drop their vibration?

[00:34:26] What happens if someone who was really, really spiritual swears? Would that drop their vibration? So I want you to kind of do a bit of a thought experiment before we dive in.

[00:34:36] Imagine the most virtuous, good person you’ve ever met.

[00:34:42] You probably never heard them swear.

[00:34:45] Now imagine them for a moment swearing like a sailor. Does it seem right?

[00:34:52] Does it fit who they are?

[00:34:55] And therefore, if it doesn’t fit who they are, is it making them a better person or a worse person?

[00:35:03] Okay.

[00:35:05] And then take someone who you know to be a particularly unpleasant person.

[00:35:09] Does them swearing make them a better person or a worse person or no change.

[00:35:14] So we can do these little thought experiences and experiments, and what we’ll see is that if someone really pure and good swears, it seems to taint them.

[00:35:27] So you could say it drops them.

[00:35:29] Whereas if someone who’s already very dark and evil swears, it doesn’t really do much to them.

[00:35:35] And sure enough, when I looked into it, this is what I found.

[00:35:40] So someone who swears, who is very spiritual, that big red arrow I’ve drawn shows just how much it will drop them down. So there’s a big drop.

[00:35:53] And oddly enough, when I looked into it, it was about 8%.

[00:35:57] So their vibration, their. The level of their spirituality, their goodness, would drop about 8% if they were to swear out loud. Okay.

[00:36:09] Now, by comparison, someone who was just above neutral, so maybe a tiny, tiny bit good, if they swore, it wouldn’t drop much, maybe a fraction of a percent in terms of their vibration.

[00:36:26] So what does this mean? Does this mean that people that are average, not really thinking spiritually, can just swear and swear and swear and it has no effect? No, it does have an effect.

[00:36:36] And in some respects you could say, well, it’s stopping them growing in their goodness. But what this is also showing us is that if you are a very spiritual person, think about what that means. That means you’ve already opened your heart to God and Jesus, that you’ve already have an awareness that there is more to you than just your, than just this physical body. You might not be able to label that awareness. You might not know the terminology. And that’s fine because it’s going to be a knowing without words and knowing without thinking. It’s going to be a beingness. That’s what spirituality is. It’s an experience. So if you know there is something greater and you know that there is something pure and it is love and it is light and it is good.

[00:37:16] Is swearing love light and good? No, it’s not.

[00:37:19] It’s kind of the opposite.

[00:37:21] So every time you swear, then you’re, it’s like you’re taking a pure glass of water and you’re dropping dirt into it and you’re making it muddy and you’re making it less clear and less pure.

[00:37:33] And so the purer you are, the bigger the impact of those impurities.

[00:37:39] Because if you’ve already got muddy water and you drop a little bit more mud in, you don’t notice much change. But if you’ve got a pure glass of water and you drop the smallest amount of, of stain into it, you’ll notice a big change because the contrast is so big. And so by contrast, the people who are most spiritual will drop the most if and when they swear.

[00:38:01] And this is quite interesting. I remember years ago there was a person, we won’t name names, and she swear, she swore a lot, but they were a very spiritual person. And there was another person who was very spiritual and who you may argue was more spiritual who didn’t like swearing.

[00:38:24] And person A, who meditated and talked a good talk about being spiritual, challenged them and said, well, the limits. You, you’re the one that’s got the problem, you know, because you’re scared of swearing or you don’t like it. So you’re the one that’s not free. You’re the one that has issues.

[00:38:43] Whereas I can embrace swearing and therefore I’m more spiritual. And, and, and they were actually trying to goad the other person into swearing and they’ve got it completely wrong. The person that was spiritual didn’t want to swear because intuitively they knew it would drop their vibration. It, it was out of place in the truth of who they were. Whereas the person that talked a good talk but was actually quite not that high vibration, love swearing and Actually, when asked, why do you do it? They said, because I like to shock people.

[00:39:16] And that was quite telling. And over time, over many decades, you could witness that that person didn’t really grow. They did a lot of meditation, but they didn’t grow spiritually. And I’m not saying they didn’t. I’m not saying for one minute that the reason they didn’t grow was because they swore.

[00:39:32] But the swearing, perhaps, as we’re starting to learn now, was an indicator of where they really were as opposed to the actions that they did.

[00:39:45] Interesting stuff. So let’s go back to those questions that we had. So we’ve now learned that there is an inverse correlation between level of spirituality and the level of sphering. And that when you are very spiritual, it will have a much more damaging effect on you if you swear than someone that is not spiritual.

[00:40:06] So the next question that we had was, well, okay, what about the difference between swearing kind of in your head? So that’s where I’ve got this speech, this thought bubble at the top here, and then swearing out loud. Is there a difference?

[00:40:22] So I’ve got this little graph on the right hand side and we’ve got across the bottom badness. So in other words, how bad is it?

[00:40:31] So naught would be no effect, and to the right hand side would be a strong effect. So what’s the effect of swearing out loud?

[00:40:42] Well, we’ll just say that it’s that there’s a bar on the screen now to show us the extent. So that’s as bad as it gets. If you swear out loud, you get that bar of impact in terms of dropping your vibration. But other stuff happens as well. And I’ll talk about that in a minute.

[00:41:02] So what we want to know really is how does swearing in our head compare to swearing out loud?

[00:41:09] Now, again, we can do a bit of a thought experiment here and say, okay, look, if I say it out loud, then what does that mean? That means other people have heard it. That means I’ve heard it because, you know, it’s come out. That means I’ve given it a voice, I’ve given it energy, literally my voice, the sound. If I say it in my head, no one hears it, but I’ve still said it. So is the effect the same? And this is what we find, okay, so we find that it’s actually about 70%.

[00:41:46] So saying it in your head, the same swear word or phrase or whatever in your head has about 70% the effect of saying it out loud. Okay?

[00:41:58] And the reason is, as I.

[00:42:01] What I alluded to in the thought experiment, when you say it out loud, you give it your voice, you manifest it into the physical realm, you subject other people to it and you hear it yourself.

[00:42:15] So it’s almost like goes out your own mouth and then the effect of it goes into your ears. So it’s almost like a reinforcing, like a feedback loop or an echo.

[00:42:25] You thought it, you said it, and now you have to hear it. So saying it out loud is always worse than saying it in your head.

[00:42:33] Now, there are situations where saying it in your head is a good thing.

[00:42:41] If you, I don’t know, you stub your toe or you. Someone upsets you and your reflex response is to swear, but you stop yourself before it comes out. So you hear the thought, but you stop it.

[00:42:57] Then you’ve actually demonstrated choice. You’ve said, I don’t want to swear even though the thought was there. I’m not going to salute it. I’m not going to give it air time, I’m not going to give it energy. And so that’s better.

[00:43:09] You’re demonstrating a choice to do the right thing. So yes, you still slipped up and you had the thought that was a swear reaction, but you didn’t follow it through, you didn’t voice it.

[00:43:23] So good on you. That’s a step in the right direction.

[00:43:29] That’s a step in the right direction and kind of shows that there is like points of choice.

[00:43:39] Now the gold standard then would be, can we get to a point where we don’t have the thought on the inside? And we’ll probably understand a bit more about that as we carry on.

[00:43:49] But the useful thing to understand is that swearing out is worse than swearing in. Okay, so does a specific swear word, going back to the questions, does the specific swear word make a difference?

[00:44:07] I had the idea to actually list all the different swear words and then rank them, but I didn’t want to actually give them airtime for the very reason. We’ve literally just said saying them out loud is worse than saying them on the inside. But what I can share with you is that of the four different types of swearing, blasphemy is by far the worst in terms of the energy and negativity impact it has on you and others.

[00:44:32] Cursing, in other words, wishing ill on others is the next worst thing after blasphemy. And that makes sense because you’re inflicting it not just on yourself, but others sexual references.

[00:44:48] And you’ll just have to use your imagination. There is the next worst and Then crudeness is the kind of the fourth worst. Now, if you’re the kind of person that goes, oh, great, I’ll just use crude words because that’s not as bad as blaspheming. You’re missing the point. They’re all bad. But what it’s saying is that.

[00:45:09] So when you swear, think about it like this. God is one thing everywhere, okay?

[00:45:14] And you’ve introduced that vile, toxic blasphemy into your environment in this point in space and time. And God is all space and all time. And I’m not talking about some biblical character. We’re talking about the absolute one thing everywhere, the cause of all that is good.

[00:45:34] So if. If that is the biggest, purest, then what you’ve done by swearing or blaspheming is you’ve become that grain of sand, that grain of dirt in the glass of water, and you’ve sullied the environment.

[00:45:49] And because blaspheming is against God or against Jesus, who is God, then it’s almost like that’s the worst you can do because God picks up on it. Okay? Cursing is the next worst because it’s. You intend not just giving an expletive, but intending harm on others and so on and so forth. And by the way, sexual.

[00:46:16] The reason why, if you want to get into the reeds spiritually, is that when a man and a woman come together in love, that is supposed to be one of the most sacred demonstrations of positivity and love and kind of spiritual union. In other words, yin and yang coming together because of love. And so anything that’s derogatory about that and that union on a physical level is actually derogatory about the nature of the cosmos, about yin and yang in harmony and balance and love. So that’s why the sexual stuff is worse than just being crude.

[00:46:54] Okay. By the way, I’m aware that there’s some good questions coming up in the chat, and we will get to them later on.

[00:47:01] So there we go.

[00:47:03] So what I want us to consider then is, you know, in. In the previous graph, I. I kind of said that the. The benchmark we had, we had Jesus in the picture and, you know, as the goal of the kind of gold standard. And. And so what we can do is we could say, well, look, what would Jesus do? In a situation where we might swear, what would Jesus do? And there’s another acronym on the page, but I’ll explain that one in a minute. Okay?

[00:47:38] So if we look at, just by way of a quick example, if we look at Matthew 21:12 to 13. And I’ve got a very, an older version of the Bible because I think it’s quite good to go back to the old ones sometimes. They don’t sugarcoat stuff as much. So 2112, 13, bear with me a second. I’m glad I’ve got these glasses on. It’s very small print. So this is when Jesus saw all the money lenders and the people working in the church and he. And he overturned the tables. And the reason why I chose this is because this is like the kind of iconic Jesus losing his temper moment. Okay.

[00:48:15] And Jesus went into the temple of God and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple and overthrew the tables of the money money. Chai says Chagas, because this is old English. And the seats of them that sold doves and said to them, it is written, my house shall be called the house of prayer, but ye have made it a den of thieves.

[00:48:45] So in other words, this is like, this is the moment when Jesus is full of righteousness, anger and wrath and is appalled at what he has seen and he’s basically rightfully lost his temper and he’s throwing tables in the air and he’s kicking people out.

[00:49:04] But he didn’t swear, he didn’t curse.

[00:49:08] And that’s why I wanted to bring this up. It’s like, what would Jesus do?

[00:49:12] And also when he was the worst moment, when he was on the cross, he didn’t swear. You know, there’s no recounting in the Bible of, you know, and they drove the nails in and he went like that.

[00:49:26] He may have called out in agony, he may have said things, but he didn’t swear. That’s quite interesting because quite often we say, well, I hit my, I hit my thumb with a hammer. So that justifies a good three minute expletive. No, what would Jesus do?

[00:49:43] But going back to the screen, I just wanted to share this because someone shared this in one of our private group chats. And you know, we, we talk about wwjd, what would Jesus do? And they shared something along the lines of J, W, N O, G I T T M I T F P, which was along the lines of Jesus would not have got into this mess in the first place.

[00:50:07] And I just thought add a bit of humor, you know.

[00:50:11] But it’s always nice to kind of, if in doubt, take it back to what would Jesus do? And again, we’re not religious, but the Bible is full of good parables and examples that we can learn from and draw Inspiration from.

[00:50:30] So the last question I asked was along the lines of which higher part, if any, is involved in swearing?

[00:50:39] Okay, so here’s us, and we’ve got our brain there, and this kind of shape here is our brain.

[00:50:50] So what’s going on?

[00:50:54] Well, we’ve got a consciousness, or you’ve probably heard of the idea of consciousnesses, and you’ve heard of the idea of mind. So let’s bring these into the picture and see if any of these have a part in it. Then we talk about soul and we talk about spirit. And I’ve talked many times in previous shows about how the soul and the spirit you could think of as a higher self. And the soul is the record of your learning, and the spirit is the beacon that guides you on that journey of learning and aiming to be closer to God and therefore more like God, you know, in terms of goodness. So these are the main players, and we’ve got our physical brain.

[00:51:37] So does swearing come purely from our brain? Well, the answer is spiritually, no.

[00:51:44] But what’s interesting is the mind can project swearing into our brain and consciousness can project swearing into our brain.

[00:52:02] And remember that I said that the part of the brain where swearing comes from is. Is fundamentally the seat of ego.

[00:52:12] It will certainly responds to ego.

[00:52:16] So what’s going on? Because mind and consciousness can project swearing into our brains, the soul and the spirit never do.

[00:52:26] They’re good. They want you to be the best version of yourself. So they will never swear. It’s not in their nature. And there’s a clue if you want to be more spiritual. Spirit, spirit doesn’t swear, soul doesn’t swear. Okay, but consciousness and mind can.

[00:52:46] And this is where it gets interesting, because you’ll remember that I’ve talked about in I Can’t Remember if It was episode 54, don’t. The one where I talk about falling on your own sword. How there are many things that are outside of you that are what we could call negative beings or entities. They’ve got minds and they’ve got consciousnesses, and so they can put the idea to swear in you. So what’s going on? In very simple terms, if you’re having negative thoughts, then you’re not being spiritual, you’re moving. Because everything is taking you in one of two directions. More towards good God, more towards God, more or more away. It’s just that simple. So every thought you have takes you closer to God or away from God makes you more spiritual or less spiritual.

[00:53:34] So if you start having negative thoughts, whatever they are, then you’re moving away from God, away from spirituality. And that means into ego. And at that point mind and consciousness will project the idea to swear into you.

[00:53:49] And so you may think, hang on a sec, where’s this coming from? This, this isn’t me.

[00:53:56] Or you may think, well, hang on, I don’t normally swear this much. Why am I suddenly wanting to swear?

[00:54:03] Because if you actually swear, it drops your vibration and then you’re even more negative and then you’re more likely to swear. And swearing itself is because the very nature of what a swear word is, as that person, you know, that meditator said, well, I like to shock people.

[00:54:25] It’s actually a way of having power over others because what you’re doing is distasteful, it’s unsavory, it’s bad.

[00:54:35] And to do it outward means that you’re saying, I don’t care, I don’t care if it’s insulting, I don’t care if it’s offensive, I don’t care if you dislike it, I’m going to do it. So you’re demonstrating the negative side of power, which is ego power. And it emboldens the ego, so it snowballs. So the more a person swears, especially if they’re not normally swearing, then it’s like a feedback loop to get more and more negative and more and more ego. And ego thrives more on the feeling of power that that generates.

[00:55:14] And the mind can be negative, consciousness can be negative, and some of them by nature are negative. And so they will feed it and feed it and feed it and it becomes an out of control thing.

[00:55:27] And so people who swear all the time, what’s happened is their brains have become habituated. So going back to that picture, their brains now have been become the habit machine that the conscious mind don’t even need to get involved. The reflex response to everything is to swear.

[00:55:45] And at that point there’s no spirit or soul involved at all. Mind and consciousness will just be topping up the ego. And that person is to the left of the original graph, to the left of that point of neutrality where they’re basically now quite a negative, dark person.

[00:56:03] So the individual swearing isn’t going to have as much impact because there’s no spirituality in them.

[00:56:08] But they’re never going to be spiritual, not because they swear, but the swearing is the symptom of the fact that they are now coming from the seat of ego.

[00:56:16] So it’s pretty profound stuff. When we start to understand how it all comes together, then we understand why swearing is not a Great thing.

[00:56:26] So I’d just like to pause things here and I’m going to add a bit of bonus information.

[00:56:31] You see, we’ve discussed coprolalia, the kind of involuntary swearing that happens when people classically, about 10% of people with Tourette’s exhibit this. And also people with various forms of aphasia caused by brain damage may also experience this. And there’s a couple of points I wanted to kind of elaborate on because I. I think it’s really interesting, but it’s also to make sure that the truth is represented as fairly as possible. So I’ve talked about how when we swear, it can drop our vibration and can have quite a negative effect. And that as a general trend, people who are more spiritual don’t like swearing. And people who are the opposite end of the spectrum and are anything but spiritual actually quite enjoy swearing.

[00:57:15] So you could draw the wrong conclusion that therefore people who have coprolalia, who have Tourette’s, are dropping in vibration, or that they’re no good, and that that would be wrong. And I think that this is definitely one thing that should be stated is that if it’s involuntary, whatever the cause, whether it’s brain or as you’ve by now discovered, it could be to do with consciousness or mind.

[00:57:42] If it’s involuntary, in other words, there wasn’t free will, then there isn’t the negative effects. By that I mean, so someone with coprolalia who involuntarily swears as a kind of verbal tic, they’re not going to drop in vibration, it’s not going to make them less spiritual because they didn’t choose to swear, they don’t have any real say in the matter. It’s happening involuntarily and therefore free will is not engaged. And so that’s really important to understand.

[00:58:11] The second thing that I really wanted to kind of elaborate on and share with you, I believe I alluded to this earlier, was to do with if someone has a tic. And as explained, a tic means a kind of involuntary either movement or in the case of coprolalia and Tourette’s, swearing, then I wanted to share a story about that. So, as you know, I do what could be called healing work or clearing work or a bit of both.

[00:58:40] And I was contacted by a concerned mother who had a. An adolescent child. And this child had developed a bit of a tick. And it seemed out of character. And this tick wasn’t causing them to swear, but it was kind of causing an involuntary movements of the body and also guttural stuff to do with the throat.

[00:59:02] And what was interesting is when I looked into it, this adolescent had quite a lot of spiritual potential. They hadn’t really started on that side of life, but there certainly was the potential for them to awaken and to become more aware of the truth of God and Jesus and their spiritual nature. And sure enough, now I must preface this by this story by saying, back then I hadn’t looked into the things that I’ve shared with you today, so I hadn’t really looked into, you know, swearing and the connection between mind and consciousness. But, but whenever someone presents with a problem state, you know, something, especially something new, my experience has been to look at, well, has anything been added to them? And sure enough, in this particular case, I’m not saying this is the case for all, but in this particular case, the tick was being caused by a fragment of a negative mind. So not the, not the individual’s mind, but a, an external mind, if you like, or a fragment of a mind that have been placed in them to cause friction. And one way of thinking about that is that if, as I said, this adolescent had spiritual potential, then they were obviously naturally quite high in vibration. So the forces of darkness, for want of a better word, had placed within this adolescent a disruptive negative mind or fragment thereof that would create friction in that individual. And the friction, the conflict between the negative mind and the good person was creating the tick, which was manifesting out as these, these involuntary movements and throat noises.

[01:00:47] And one way, what this really helps us to understand, the reason why I’m sharing this story is to again, look at things from the bigger picture.

[01:00:55] By time stuff physically manifests what’s really going on. On a higher level, you could think of it in terms of energy.

[01:01:02] By time, we see something evidenced in physical movement or sound. There’s something behind it. And it was that battle between the good person and therefore the good aspects of them, their soul, their spirit and their, you know, their brain, their nervous system, versus this very low vibrational thing that was fighting within them. And that incongruency came out as nervous system incongruency, eg, an involuntary tic. And so when I removed that dark thing from them, then the symptoms disappeared. Now, having looked into this, then you could ask, you know, the logical question is, does that mean that all cases of Tourette’s or tics or coprolalia are caused by an external agency or something placed within a person? And the answer is no. Whenever we look at these things, we’ve got to avoid the temptation to Do a broad brushstroke. The nature of reality is very complex, although it always resolves down to fundamental simple principles.

[01:02:07] For example, every choice either moves you away from God or towards God. That’s a simple principle, but the manifestation and the expression of it is vastly complex. So if you think about, well, what does that mean it we’re talking about choice. Well, there’s an infinite number of choices.

[01:02:23] And so in some cases, yes, the tic, the coprolalia, the Tourette’s may be caused by an external agency, but you’d have to look at it on a case by case basis. But the good news is if, like this particular adolescent, you had spiritual potential. And going back to the graph I drew earlier then where I showed the relationship potential between swearing and spirituality, if you were very much to the right hand side of that graph, the few who are truly spiritual or certainly had the potential to be there, then the tick, the interference upon that individual was out of place and therefore could be put right. It’s a case by case basis. And what I would always say is in God there is always hope.

[01:03:12] So the wisdom is to say, okay, so how, what’s going on here in this particular case, rather than looking at a broad brush strokes. But I just thought it was fascinating that you can actually have a situation where there is a cause and when that is dealt with, then symptoms disappear.

[01:03:32] And having experienced that directly myself, where I’ve helped heal and clear an adolescent who had developed such a tick, then it’s quite inspiring, I think, to share that story and say, look, we should always look at dis ease as potentially something that is either a bit of a message to ourselves or foreign to ourselves. And if you want to know more about that side of things, then the book Spiritual Life Explained is a really good starting point to understand the relationship between dis ease and self growth. Okay, so I thought I’d share that story with you because it’s very pertinent to what we’ve been discussing.

[01:04:13] And so now we can return back to the live show.

[01:04:18] So if you meet someone and they do a lot of swearing, then it’s not to say dismiss them, but it’s to say, oh, that’s interesting. Is this what they’re normally like or are they even aware of it? And early on in this live show I had a, I talked about a very good friend who is a lovely human being, but they were swearing and I said to them, look, I find it offensive.

[01:04:44] And so when, when we’re talking, can you not swear?

[01:04:48] And what I did what that did was it broke the habit because that person’s lovely and they do actually care. And they went, oh, I’m really sorry, I didn’t realize.

[01:04:57] A few phone calls later, they swore and they corrected themselves and said, look, I know you don’t like swearing, sorry. And they carried on without swearing and now they don’t swear as much. It’s become that they’ve woken up to the swearing they were doing and there’s so much we could go into, like, did people just pick it up from their environment, from their upbringing? But fundamentally, what we’re now starting to understand is that swearing can drop your vibration and it’s never a good thing, you know? So let’s just do a very quick summary of, of where we’re at with what we’ve learned so far.

[01:05:35] So the more spiritual are, the less you swear, swearing drops your vibration more. So if you are spiritual, swearing drops the vibration of your environment, which is why blaspheming is the worst.

[01:05:47] Listening to swearing drops your vibration. Now, I may not have touched on that, but if you willingly listen to swearing, so a comedian that swears a lot or a film or, or just engaging in a conversation and the person’s effing and blinding and you don’t and you accept it, you’re actually letting it in, so it is dropping your vibration. The impetus to swear comes from the mind and consciousness, not the brain itself.

[01:06:12] But it can become a habit of the brain.

[01:06:16] And blasphemy is the worst kind of swearing.

[01:06:19] And it’s not the word.

[01:06:22] Now this is interesting, I didn’t really touch on this, but it’s not the specific word, rather it’s the reason, motivation, association and energy.

[01:06:32] So if you swear at someone and there’s hatred or you really want to insult them, or your choice of words are to cause shock or to cause disgust or horrible imagery, it’s the reason behind the words, it’s what your motivation is that has the negativity in it.

[01:06:56] You know, if a two year old repeats a swear word and they don’t even understand the context or anything, there’s no energy, they’re just repeating a sound.

[01:07:06] But if an adult says those swear words, knowing the implications, that’s a lot more powerful.

[01:07:12] And fundamentally, good spiritual people don’t like to swear. And the corollary of that is that bad people like to swear. Swear.

[01:07:20] I’m not saying people who swear are bad, but I’m saying that bad people like to swear.

[01:07:27] Okay, lots to digest there.

[01:07:32] Let’s just change tact for A moment. Okay, let’s go to a place where we know there definitely isn’t going to be any swearing. I’d like to do something special with you. Now. Someone once described this book as a living book.

[01:07:46] Every time they read it, they get something new from it. So what I’m going to do is we’re going to read a few pages together and I’m going to break down the meaning behind the words and give you more of an understanding. Because this book really is like a spiritual user guide, helping each of us to get more from our spiritual state. So if that sounds interesting, then join me now.

[01:08:10] And we’re now over here and hopefully let’s just look over there that we can.

[01:08:15] You can hear me. Okay.

[01:08:17] Yep, it looks like everything’s working. So we are now on part three, Health and healing of Spiritual life Explained the Wake up call, page 21. If you’re reading along with me.

[01:08:31] In part two, we explored free will and we learned that all choices are either bringing us closer to God or moving us in the wrong direction, further from God. This is the same whether a person believes in God or not, since God’s love and support is always present for all of humanity.

[01:08:48] Now, if we’re going in the wrong direction, then the guidance actually becomes easier to notice. But some people may be surprised to learn that such guidance that we are going in the wrong direction in life often manifests in the form of dis ease, injury or accident.

[01:09:06] I’d add to that, as well as disease, injury or accident, it may also be loss. For example, you may lose a possession or you may misplace something. That kind of thing can also be feedback that you’re going in the wrong direction.

[01:09:29] Chapter 12 Physical Feedback.

[01:09:31] Ever had a bad thought and then walked into a door or bashed your toe on furniture?

[01:09:36] Been thinking negatively about some worry and then you get stomachache or criticizing yourself and then you have got a headache. That’s how it works.

[01:09:47] There’s a lot more to it. And rather than go into it here, I will simply say that there are some very good books on how you can heal your life. And they explain the relationship between ailments and their underlying thoughts in a lot of detail. And what I’m alluding to, there is a book by Hayes. Is it Elizabeth Brenda Hayes or Elizabeth Hayes? Someone can put it in the chat, please, and I’ll correct myself afterwards. But if you search for you can heal your life. When I looked into it, that book was channeled from a higher source and is quite accurate and very worthwhile looking at, I wouldn’t get too caught up in the minor details, but the general concepts are really powerful and a lot of people that I work with have found that book to be quite helpful. So it’s certainly worth having on your bookshelf.

[01:10:39] So not everything in those books matches what I and others have found from direct experience, but they are definitely pointing in the right direction and a great starting point for you if you are new to all of this.

[01:10:52] So whether you are new or experienced, though, I would not worry too much about the minutest details because it is not about what is written in any book. Your higher self is not reading a book and saying, oh, we’re thinking bad about ourselves. Let me see. Page 27. Ah, I have to give him a migraine.

[01:11:11] Your body speaks your truth.

[01:11:14] No, it’s much more along the lines of your body speaks your truth based on your understanding.

[01:11:21] I’ll just stop there. You’re meant to understand what your body is trying to tell you, what your higher self is trying to tell you using your body. Okay, so it’s not about a book that someone wrote, although that can help. You can always get the answer from within.

[01:11:38] So it has to be this way because you are meant to make sense of the feedback your body is giving you. So the key word here is feedback.

[01:11:46] If you’re going in the wrong direction, meaning you are not listening to God and your higher self, then it usually means you are listening to your brain or your ego, and in the case of swearing just to bring that in, then it also means that you may be listening to mind and consciousness.

[01:12:05] Your ego and your brain are firmly grounded in your physical identity. And so since you are now giving way too much attention to your physical body, you manifest the message that you are going in the wrong direction in your physical body.

[01:12:19] The message is placed where you are looking.

[01:12:21] It is actually poetically simple and gracefully elegant.

[01:12:25] It is perhaps just that we are so used to thinking that the physical realm is real that we compartmentalize and so think that physical problems must have a physical cause and a physical solution, rather than considering that perhaps this dis ease is the result of how I am thinking.

[01:12:44] But, and this is important, not all disease is feedback.

[01:12:51] Chapter 13 toxic people there are bad people in the world. And no, you could not tell from looking at them or even how they act.

[01:13:01] Often bad people are very charismatic and are seen to be doing good in the world. And this. I’ll just stop there. This speaks to what I said earlier where I was saying, look, bad people like to swear, but if they’re in a position of power or influence or they’ve got charisma, quite often they’ve learned that swearing doesn’t get them what they want.

[01:13:23] So they learn to talk politely, they learn how to charm people.

[01:13:28] In other words, they put on an act to get what they want. And that’s why I was saying that just because someone isn’t swearing doesn’t mean they’re good. We have to be wiser than that. But it’s certainly an indicator. If someone has a propensity to swear and enjoys swearing and doesn’t mind insulting people, then that’s normally a good indication that they’re not good.

[01:13:49] Okay, so going back to this bad good, these are not about appearances or actions. It is about what is in someone’s heart, or rather in some cases, what is lacking from their heart.

[01:14:03] This is one reason why we teach about the six virtues and how we should strive to be non judgmental of all people.

[01:14:11] How you act and think should be a reflection of what is in your heart rather than what you think is in the heart of the person in front of you.

[01:14:19] And so, tying what I just said in the book to what we’re discussing in today’s episode, your responsibility is to whether you choose to have the intention to swear less and to be aware of the fact that swearing is not good for you or anyone around you. That’s your responsibility.

[01:14:40] Whether someone is swearing or not, you should always be good to them. That’s what this is kind of saying, bringing it into what we’re discussing today. So I’ll just read on a little bit and then we’ll wrap up.

[01:14:55] In reality, the majority of people could be considered neutral, neither particularly good nor particularly bad. And for them they will lean one way or the other. Depending on their environmental influences, your goodness can uplift them. So we’ll stop there on page 24 and I’ll just make a note so that next week we know where we are. I hope you’re finding what we’ve discussed so far really useful. But I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for watching this live show and also for your support. If you haven’t already done so, remember to hit the like button. Subscribe. And importantly, share this with other people so that they can benefit too. The way back and all the work that I did is completely not for profit. And most of what I do I give away for free. The only exception being the books which are priced not for profit. And every single penny of the book sales goes towards supporting the way back and therefore supporting this show. So thank you for all that you do and all the support that you give. And let’s return to the live show and I’ll see you soon.

[01:15:58] Okay? There we go. And thank you for the people in the chat who corrected me. It wasn’t Brenda hey, it was Louise. Hey. Makes perfect sense now. I remember. So thank you for that. Millie 2772 and Marigold 0, you’re on the ball and good teamwork there.

[01:16:16] So we’re going to wrap up, but I would like to share some of the questions from the chat and see if I can shed light on some of these things. So what have we got here?

[01:16:30] What about using replacement words for swear words, saying sugar, does it have the same effect? Is it about intention? The intention was to swear regardless of what was what word was used? Yes. So good question. Millie 2772 As I said, it’s the energy and intention behind the word that matters. But I would say if you go oh sugar, that’s probably going to be better than say, for example, people use Jesus’s name, take Jesus’s name in vain as an expletive and at least just showing the intention not to be rude or insulting around other people so that it’s not black and white.

[01:17:18] It’s probably better, but it’s still coming from a place of swearing. And if you think about it, if you’ve got the time to say oh sugar instead of a worse expletive, then is that actually swearing or is that kind of like the intellectual layer over the top? Because the amygdala, the swearing response is almost instantaneous. It’s although I did describe a situation where you might hear the swearing inside and decide not to let it out.

[01:17:54] But we need to be mindful. Or certainly mindful is probably not the right phrase, but we need to consider that.

[01:18:01] Are we just shifting it from kind of the amygdala rapid response side to the more intellectual side? In which case I would say cut it out altogether if you can.

[01:18:12] But it’s a choice. It’s not you should. It’s simply a choice. And your next question, which is what about reading or being exposed to swearing from others, for example, what effect does it have on good spiritual person? Yes. So again, good question. And that was covered where I said that hearing swearing, and therefore you could extrapolate that to reading it, because if you read something, then you say it to yourself on the inside, so it’d be the same as if you’re saying saying it to yourself so, yeah, hearing it, reading it is still going to have the effect on you and not, not great to choose to read material that’s got a lot of swearing or to listen to material. And I was reflecting, actually, I didn’t have time, but I was wondering, I was going to take some popular songs from different genres and see if there’s a trend where, you know, some music probably is very loaded with swear words. And now we understand that swear words drop the vibration of people. So what effect is, for example, rap music is classically very heavy on the swearing. What effect is rap music having on the people that listen to it from an energy point of view?

[01:19:28] Yeah, good questions and I appreciate that. So I think, see, I’ve got my coffee here and I’ll say thank you everyone for joining us on this exploration of language. And just to kind of remember why, why is this? Why does this matter?

[01:19:49] People are swearing 80 to 400 times a day. And now we know that it doesn’t come from our spirit, it doesn’t come from our soul, that it drops the vibration that harms the people around us, not just the people doing it, and that fundamentally it takes us further from God. Then I think it was quite worthwhile to look into this. And hopefully this has been useful to you.

[01:20:12] And what I would say is like with my dear friend, remember? So let’s bring it back to the virtues.

[01:20:21] So we’re talking about humility, respect, gratitude, non judgment, compassion and unconditional love.

[01:20:31] The humility was when I, you know, it was demonstrated, for example, when I said, look, I put my hand up, I slip up sometimes I try not to, but occasionally I do. You know, I have, I have sworn, you know, the humility to know that none of us are going to get it right and be perfect. So let’s not sit on our high chairs or be judgmental.

[01:20:51] Okay, so let’s just pause for a moment so I can talk about something else that’s kind of a bonus to this podcast.

[01:20:59] So what we just discussed is the fact that, look, we’re going to slip up, we’re going to swear, it’s going to happen from time to time.

[01:21:06] And as spiritual people, we understand now that that means that it may drop our vibration. So that’s not a good thing.

[01:21:13] But that’s not the complete picture.

[01:21:16] Life is full of opportunities, opportunities to learn, to grow, to change.

[01:21:21] So one thing we can do is whenever we find ourselves swearing, whether we’re swearing externally, out loud, or just internally in our own heads, to take that as a moment, it’s like an exclamation mark that we can go, whoa, pause, whatever, whatever we’re doing, whatever we’re thinking, pause. Because that swearing means that we’re not as neutral as still as aligned with our spiritual state as we could be. So the swearing can be a trigger to draw our attention to the fact that we could be stiller, we could be more neutral, we could be more spiritual right now and therefore to do so.

[01:22:01] And it can just simply be the intention to say, oh, hang on a sec, I’ve just sworn, sorry, apologize to your higher self, apologize to Jesus, apologize to God, and then have that intention to be stiller, to be more spiritual, to be more like Jesus, what would Jesus do?

[01:22:19] And so long as we break the habit, break the pattern, acknowledge it, seek forgiveness, and then demonstrate what we should have done or what we could have done. Because there’s always choice. But by going, okay, I’m going to stop, I’m going to realign, and I’m going to be the better version of myself then actually, although we did stumble and we swore, we can now turn that around and actually use it as a trigger to become more spiritual.

[01:22:52] And that coupled with the general intention to respect yourself, others, and ultimately God more closely through how you use your language, that is to not swear, can be a powerful tool effectively to becoming the better version of yourself.

[01:23:14] And that’s the best we can do, is to strive naturally through intention to be better. And now that we understand that swearing is one of those things that actually kind of takes us in the wrong direction, then we’re now empowered with that information to do even more and to integrate. So just to understand it’s not about doing, but by integrating the knowledge, then we become. And so when we become that person that doesn’t swear, then we’ve embodied change, positive change, positive growth and spiritual growth. So if you find yourself swearing, use it as a trigger to change. And we can now return to the podcast the Respect.

[01:24:01] We’re all coming from different places. My dear friend had never really thought about it. And, and you know, you’re watching a show because you want to grow spiritually, but a lot of people haven’t even got to that point where they’re thinking about it.

[01:24:16] The non judgment is obvious. Just because someone swears, don’t be quick to judge them and go, that person, person is not spiritual. In the case of my dear friend, that person is actually, when you speak to them about life, has a massive heart and is full of love for other people and is on many levels extremely spiritual. Just doesn’t understand it the way that you or I might. Okay.

[01:24:38] And so on and compassion. Where are they coming from? What’s there been their journey up till now? So the best we can do is not to beat anyone over the head if they swear, but just to simply find a way that they will understand to say, hey, have you ever considered whether or not that’s dropping your vibration or whether or not there’s a better way of being or, you know, is that just a habit? Or have you ever considered whether it’s actually affecting people around you?

[01:25:06] And if I’m out with friends and one of them is swearing, especially if we’re in a public place and there’s children, I’ll just say, hey, look, this kid’s on the next table.

[01:25:14] Keep the language clean. And how it’s put in a way it’s put doesn’t offend anyone and quite often has the right result.

[01:25:22] And sometimes it’s just waking people up to the habits because remember, by time it’s habitualized in the brain.

[01:25:28] It’s because there’s already been that kind of tirade from mind and consciousness. So let’s wake the brain up to what it’s doing. And that’s when someone is present.

[01:25:40] That’s when there’s the opportunity to change. Okay?

[01:25:44] So let’s all become ambassadors of speaking nice clean language.

[01:25:50] And remember, we’re only ever responsible for ourselves. It’s what comes out of our mouths is a reflection of what’s in our hearts. Let’s not be judgmental of others.

[01:26:01] So we’ll pause here again because perhaps you can remember right at the start I said that there was going to be an announcement and in the live show, completely forgot. So as another bonus within this audio podcast, and I’d like to share that announcement with you now. And what it is, is if you were to go to zaretti.com and go to the news section, you’d see that I’ve just released a news article basically announcing that I’m in the very early stages of creating a new spiritual documentary. And I’m not at this stage going to give away too much about what the documentary is going to be about. Obviously it’s spiritual stuff, so hopefully it’ll cover topics that would. Would interest you. But I’ll just read a little quote from that news article.

[01:26:51] My initial findings from the spiritual research I’ve already done on this topic has surprised me being both unexpected and further reaching than I first thought.

[01:27:01] This is likely to shake things up a bit and that’s a quote from myself talking about why I’m going to go ahead and do this particular project.

[01:27:10] And at this stage all I’m really saying is it may cover Italy, France and even Egypt and it’s a contemporary look at biblical and medieval history through a spiritual lens. So that sounds interesting. Definitely. Jump on over to zaretti.com I’ll put a link in the write up notes of this podcast and just follow me on my socials and also join the free mailing list because I’ll be doing announcements as things progress. But at this stage it’s very early days. It’s all in the planning stage, although I have started the actual spiritual research and I’m looking forward to this one. So come along for the ride. Anyway, we’ll return to the end of episode 60 and yeah, thank you for joining and I’m just gonna read one last thing from the chat and then I will love you and leave you so this is just a story. So I was once in a job where my boss swore a lot, but not in front of me, even though I never asked him not to swear. They must have picked up on the fact that I that didn’t appreciate it.

[01:28:21] Maybe, maybe they were scared of us, you know, who knows. But let’s take it as that was something positive and they probably thought that person and it could just be all joking apart, it could just be that you don’t swear and therefore they were inspired at least to be good around you.

[01:28:39] And that’s a win because by your example maybe you inspired them and who knows what effect that had A knock on effect.

[01:28:49] Yeah. And this person is saying, in fact once they said I know you don’t like swearing to justify that they were going to swear even though I never asked them not to swear. Yeah. You know, little examples can have profound effects on people. So let’s all be beacons of light. And on that note, I will say God bless you, good night and when wherever you are, keep on making good choices.

[01:29:16] Thank you for being awesome and joining me for this episode. I’m truly grateful. As a spiritual person, I hope it’s inspiring to realize that you’re not alone and that more and more like minded people just like you are enjoying this live show. This means that you’re part of a growing and awakening community and together we’re all finding the way back to God. Going deeper than just ideas and beliefs to experience firsthand real spiritual awakening. This is a journey of the heart, not the head.

[01:29:51] So take this moment to just become a little bit Stiller More present, more neutral.

[01:30:01] Now notice what you notice when I ask you this question.

[01:30:07] What in this particular episode has been most useful?

[01:30:15] Now, who in your life at this particular time would benefit the most from knowing this too? Maybe it’s one person, or maybe it’s more than one, but because sharing is caring, it’s really not nice to know that you can actually share this show with them and therefore help them.

[01:30:31] This show is completely free to enjoy and benefit from. Now, speaking of free stuff, if you’d like other useful, helpful spiritual resources, then head on over to the wayback group.org there you’ll find all kinds of free resources, articles, eBooks, MP3s, guided meditations, and a whole load of other stuff that’s completely free and waiting for you to discover it. So that’s all for this episode, but your journey and my journey continues. And so I look forward to having you join me next week for more revelation and exploration into spiritual things. And together, let’s make more sense of life, not just for us, but for our loved ones so that we can help them too.

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[01:31:26] Who knows what we’ll be discussing next week, and the next question or topic might even be yours. Perhaps there’s a reason you’ve been guided to this show.

[01:31:35] So God bless you. And remember, real change starts when we put into practice what we’re learning so that we go from thinking and doing to finally being.

[01:31:53] So take what you’ve learned today and keep on being the best version of you.

[01:31:59] God bless.